My husband and I try to be intimate as often as we can, it makes a relationship very healthy. But if we cant than its no big deal. he works twelve hour days and i am a full time mom. We do what we can and thats all we can do!

i mean does not die off, and i am thinking i didn't use the right words

I understand working longs hours, my hubby works 12 hour night shifts with a three hour commute. I understand taking care of the kids by yourself, I do it every day. I DON'T understand couples who have plenty of time, a babysitter, plenty of money for a date night, yet no sex! My best friend goes 3-4 months without, she tells me, and I cannot wrap my mind around it. If you love each other and someone is in the mood then you should make them happy. Both of you don't have to be "in the mood". I believe you should sastify your partner because you love them. Period. There are always exceptions but I do not understand going MONTHS without. That's just crazy.

I've gone months without. I seem to be 'in the mood' much more often then my husband. He always seems to have something on his mind that makes him not want to do anything. Lately there have been some very nice phases, so I've been happier there. What I never can really seem to wrap my head around is why there are always reasons or excuses to NOT do it and never enough reasons to find to DO it. It's a normal HEALTHY part of your relationship that should be expressed. Being healthy sexually with your spouse makes the rest of the marriage, family life healthier. At least in my experiance. Nothing wrong with wanting to be with the one you love.

Kids will ruin your sex life. I recommend getting a lock on your bedroom door and using it. As long as no one is screaming bloody murder, we ignore our kids for a little while. ;)

I know having kids change your life, but my hubbie and I, we try to forget about parenting more than 3 times a week at less for us sex is an energy buster.

My husband and I are conveniently separating during this pregnancy, still living together for the moment and getting along as friends (yes, sounds weird but strangely is working)! He is NOT supportive during the pregnancy, only been to 1 appointment that I made him go to. He NEVER asks how I'm doing or helps me do anything (no housework or anything). I mowed the grass until about 7 months. Finally got tired! But since we still live together and have not divorced yet, I "borrow" him when I "need" him. It still belongs to me and I still have needs! 2-3 times a month.

My hubby and I definately don't do it as much as we would both like, he works 40+ hrs a week, is an aspiring body builder so spends about 12-15 hrs a week at the gym and i am a SAHM with 2 little girls so needless to say we both get pretty wore out. I know there should not be excuses, but let's face it, it's realistic to make up excuses to get out of doin it when you just aren't in the mood. And personally, if I am not in the mood, I don't even bother doin it b/c I know I don't put as much into it when I don't feel like doin it and I don't want him to feel like he did something wrong b/c I was not feelin it.

My husband is 26yrs older than me we have 4 kids ranging from 2 to 12. we have sex at least twice a day. Sometimes more very rarely less. Look i get being tired but we have made it a priority once you get in the habit of it its easy. right when you go to bed, first thing in the morning. sometimes at lunch time. weekend getaways are amazing. we are not focused on "oh we finally get to have sex" that we miss out on local attractions don't get me wrong though. we have sex than to.

Common thread among all postings (positive and negative) seems to be that if both partners are trying to give a little more than they get and the lines of communication are open, frequency is not as important as quality.