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Im 18 wks and I have felt so insecure lately. My husband is trying to help me feel beautiful. However, his mother isn't..it's like she keeps up with how I look everytime we see her. This is our second child so what should I do?

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Im 18 wks and I have felt so insecure lately. My husband is trying to help me feel beautiful. However, his mother isn't..it's like she keeps up with how I look everytime we see her. This is our second child so what should I do?

asked by prettynpink_bow... 2 years 42 weeks ago
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by kris10mary submitted 2 years 42 weeks

I think you need to speak with your husband about this. If he is trying to help you overcome your insecurities, I'm sure he'll understand if you explain to him that there are things that your MIL says/does that add to/increase your insecurity and that you need his support on this.  If your MIL comments on your weight, etc., just say that you're checked out every time you go to the doctor, and your doctor has said that you're right where you need to be.

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by jvstella submitted 2 years 42 weeks

Well, I'm the type of person to tell a someone straight to their face that if they're going to be indecent, nosy, or pushy, I don't need to see them.  If my husband's mother were to call me fat (or comment on the acne that pregnancy has given me, or anything else), I would turn around and leave - after making sure she knew exactly why I was leaving (and giving her a chance to apologize).

 

Of course you should talk to your husband and ask him to be supportive of you - but it's really important that you don't put him between you and his mom; it's not his job to be the referee.  Tread lightly, but be honest - you're PREGNANT, for god's sake, it's time to lay off the personal comments...

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by jvstella submitted 2 years 42 weeks

Well, I'm the type of person to tell a someone straight to their face that if they're going to be indecent, nosy, or pushy, I don't need to see them.  If my husband's mother were to call me fat (or comment on the acne that pregnancy has given me, or anything else), I would turn around and leave - after making sure she knew exactly why I was leaving (and giving her a chance to apologize).

 

Of course you should talk to your husband and ask him to be supportive of you - but it's really important that you don't put him between you and his mom; it's not his job to be the referee.  Tread lightly, but be honest - you're PREGNANT, for god's sake, it's time to lay off the personal comments...

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by aries123 submitted 2 years 42 weeks

TELLING UR HUSBAND IS OK BUT IT MAY NOT GET THE JOB DONE . THE BEST WAY TO GO ABOUT DEALING WITH UR MOTHER IN-LAW IS TO GET REALLY JAZZED UP  AND INVITE HER OVER,  TELL HER HOW U FEEL AND TELL HER (IN A REPECTFUL WAY) U DON'T NEED THIS RIGHT NOW , AND "MY HUSBAND AND I "WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERE MORE HELP INSTEAD OF "TRYING" INSTED OF  MAKING  YOU FEEL UMCOMFORTABLE.(OR ON THE LINES OF THAT)  YOU BOOSTED UR CONFIDENCE AND PROBABLY GAINED A LITTLE BIT MORE REPECT FROM THE IN-LAWS...TWO BIRDS WITH ONE STONE!!

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