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Im 18 years old and 13 weeks pregnant with my 1st child. My 19 year old baby daddy has really switched up on me ever since we found out that

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Im 18 years old and 13 weeks pregnant with my 1st child. My 19 year old baby daddy has really switched up on me ever since we found out that

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4 years ago
I was pregnant at 6weeks. We been together 2years now and was talking about marriage when we graduated from college.. Now we're talking about just the baby and he does'nt seem to want anything to do with me anymore. I know I should not get stressed out and worry about this but I cant help but.. 2months ago everything was perfect and we were each others world.. But I cant see myself raising this baby without being WITH him WITH him.. Like we always planned. What should I do?

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4 years ago
I know this is going to be hard to hear, but sometimes the best thing you can do is let them go and think about you and the baby!!! I was 19 when I had my first baby and the dad and I did not work out and lets say I am happier without him then I was ever going to be with. If he can't standby you now he's not going to later. We had our little girl and he was there for that and after he would come and go playing with my heart and hers. And no women or child deserves that what so ever.When you have a child life is bigger than just you..... You have to put the bs aside and look at what's in front of you and that would be the sweet baby that looks at you with their big loving eyes. And trust me no man can ever love you as much your own child!!!P.s I am married and have another little girl and a little boy on the way... So life changes for the better and it only gets better if you are willing to make the changes!!!Wishing you the best...
4 years ago
You are still so young. You have to do what is best for you and your baby. Adding any additional stress to your life with a precious miracle on the way is not wise. Emotions will be running high with you as it is being pregnant, you don't need anymore BS. I agree with Robin. If the father is already giving you ups and downs about this, you are better off without him. Take care of you and your baby. If possible, go live with your mom and dad for the time being. Best of luck angel, hope these words help.
4 years ago
They say that fathers don't really feel like fathers until they hold their babies but mothers become mothers the moment they know they are pregnant. But If he never comes around after the baby is born you have to focus on you and your baby. Being pregnant for the first time can be stressful at any age. Best of luck to you and your baby. Hope everything works out the way that you wish it does. But if not just know God has a plan for you and it will all be ok in the end. You are bringing a new life into the world, what is more miraculous than that?
4 years ago
There aren't many words that someone can tell you that will make you feel any better in this situation. The only thing you can do is wait and see. Things only get worse to get better sweetheart. I truely wish you the best.
4 years ago
once that baby comes, he will feel so different. everything changes when a father holds his child for the 1st time. if he doesnt change, then forget him. that baby is going to be your life. you will love him/her more than anything in this world and you wont worry about drama with your bf. i just had my baby a month and 1/2 ago and im also 18. i never thought i could love anything more than my bf of 6yrs, but my son is the best thing that's ever happened to me. he's the man of my life now, if that's how you would look at it :D good luck and i hope this helped you :)
4 years ago
i know what you mean i was a bit younger when i had my first and her dad only wanted to be with his friends and didn't seem to care about time with me anymore and wasn't interested in me or our relationship but really i had to chose what was right for my daughter i stuck around for two years with him acting like that and not helping and playing video games i left him and couldn't be happier!

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