What I noticed that all of these answers have in common is Commitment. It seems most of the women who had good experiences with being pregnant before marriage were in committed relationships. Marriage is a great way to show your commitment to one another, but marriages end all the time. It's not the marriage part that seems to make the difference it's the commitment. So if you are worried about your boyfriend's commitment then marriage doesn't seem to be your question, it's having a baby in a relationship that isn't, from your perspective committed. The key difference with marriage is if things go sour, he has a legal obligation to take care of you. Sure plenty of guys sluff their alimony and child support but you still have that safety net if things don't work out. If you aren't married and he's not committed, he could easily leave you high and dry. I believe that having a baby should have a mother and a father. To me that means a married couple, co-dependent, and committed. I'm pretty old fashioned, but it's not wrong to feel like having your baby out of wedlock isn't a good thing, Especially if you don't feel that your man is totally commited to you. I'm glad that my husband and I are having a baby after we've been married for a few years. I know that he is 100% committed to me, our relationship, and our little one on the way. I know that my husband and I will be a family forever, and our children will be a part of that union. We made a covenant with God to commit to one another and that is so much more than just a label and a ring. I know that no matter what we face we will be together. Not everyone is sure of that. I hope that you can be so sure before you bring your little one into the world.