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10 month old crying it out

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2 years ago
So I have decided to let my 10 month old son "cry it out" at night & have seen very good results. Unfortunately my parents think otherwise. They accused me of being "cruel" & not sacrificing enough. I am with my son 24/7 give him all the love support and attention. I've read that people shouldn't make me feel bad if I decide to take this route, but I'm just getting negative feedback from them which is affecting our relationship. The most he cries at night his 10 minutes & most nights aren't even that long. I don't know what to do! Is anyone else having this problem? I'm just so frustrated. I know I love my baby. Can anyone please point me to specific studies about this? I hate that they make me question my parenting skills.

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2 years ago
My son is almost 9 months and does not sleep well at night. I am getting to the point you are at. I do go in and check on him when he first starts crying to make sure he is okay. I give him a hug then lay him down. He will cry a short bit but he needs to go back to sleep. He is waking 4 times a night. If it is working for you and your son then stick with it. He should be sleeping more soundly soon. Just do what feels right to you.
2 years ago
I'm not a fan of making babies cry it out and it's never something I suggest. I have tried it as a last resort with both of my kids but it didn't work with either of them. There are other ways to get babies to self-soothe and fall asleep on their own. Having the experiences I've had with two kids, I probably won't ever try to make my next baby cry it out. I don't feel that a baby or child should have to cry themselves to sleep, even if they only cry for a few minutes. I don't think it sets up good attitudes toward sleep.My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 10 months old. It drove me crazy and I tried everything possible to get him to sleep. Even co-sleeping didn't help, he still woke up multiple times a night. The only thing that worked was sitting by his crib while he fell asleep. He learned that sleeping his crib was nothing to be upset about, that he didn't have to be afraid of being by himself. As he got used to it I was able to leave while he was still awake.
2 years ago
I am not a fan of the cry it out method, my daughter has had rough nights too but I find other ways of helping her through those nights other than just letting her cry. Just my opinion, not downing your parenting, just giving my opinion. 
2 years ago
I've been through this. I'll make a long story short. I was very against CIO and my son was a terrible sleeper. I tried all the no cry solutions and nothing really worked. It got to the point where everyone was dysfunctional, including my baby, so at 8 months old I finally decided to CIO after reaching the end of my rope.  Bottom line, it took very little crying, by day 3 he was sleeping through the night without hardly crying at all. Naps took about a week, and now he is really a great sleeper for the most part. We've had a couple of relapses but it usually takes a day or two of CIO and then he's back to sleeping great. Our lives drastically improved and my son was well rested so he was actually happier, his personality came to life... It basically saved us. So don't let others influence you, follow your gut and just smile politely at unwanted advice.Good luck!!!
2 years ago
I've been through this. I'll make a long story short. I was very against CIO and my son was a terrible sleeper. I tried all the no cry solutions and nothing really worked. It got to the point where everyone was dysfunctional, including my baby, so at 8 months old I finally decided to CIO after reaching the end of my rope.  Bottom line, it took very little crying, by day 3 he was sleeping through the night without hardly crying at all. Naps took about a week, and now he is really a great sleeper for the most part. We've had a couple of relapses but it usually takes a day or two of CIO and then he's back to sleeping great. Our lives drastically improved and my son was well rested so he was actually happier, his personality came to life... It basically saved us. So don't let others influence you, follow your gut and just smile politely at unwanted advice.Good luck!!!
2 years ago
the cio method worked well for my first daughter, and i plan to use it with my second daughter now too. (once she gets older-she's only 3 weeks) don't let anyone tell you that your a a bad mother because of that. stick with what works, hunny!

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