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20 year old, new mom... Not trying to get prego... What do I expect??

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3 years ago
I just found out I was pregnant today.. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. One minute I feel like crying, another minute I'm excited.. I'm scared to death, I don't know what I've gotten myself into... Any advice will help, moms! When will I show? What do I do? I don't even know where to start.........

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3 years ago
congrats!, everyone starts showing at a different time with my first baby i didnt gain weight untill i was 11 weeks and i gained 5 pounds and i didnt acually show untill 14 weeks and then i had a little belly and now im pregnant again with setuplets and i am 9 weeks and i only gained 2 pounds and i have noticed my clothes being a little snug on me so i guess its a little different every pregnancy
3 years ago
well i was pregnant with sextuplets but now i only got one little baby im my stomach :(
3 years ago
hii and CONGRATULATIONS..!!A baby is always a great blessing and i knw exaclly what you mean when you say one min you want to cry and another you feel really happy...!! When your pregnant mood swings are verry common. So when ever you feel like crying for no reasson its totally ok! go ahead and cry. Some symptoms you might go thru while pregnant are, tender swollen breast...!! Or fatigue like if u had been running for hours,,,!! you might get really sleepy...You might get nausea or have a really high sense of smell.. You might have really frequent urination... When i was pregnant i hatted the fact i had to get up almost 4 times every night...!!  you might have some bloating and you can't blame it on your baby yet, but you can blame it on the hormone progesterone, which helps slow down digestion, giving the nutrients from foods you eat more time to enter your bloodstream and reach your baby....!! Other then that i cnt think of anything else...  Good luck and make an apointment with your doctor as soon as posiible so he/she can give you prenatal pills which are verry important for the health of your baby...!! =o)
3 years ago
Pregancy is very different for everyone. Even the same woman at different pregnancies are different. My best advise is, like cossalejandra said, make a doctors appt. Prenatles are SO important. They will also have great resources as far as nutrition and how much to exhert yourself, etc. When you do get that doctor ASK QUESTIONS, ask them about everything! That is what they are there for!I was pregant at 20 and i was afraid to ask. I figured if i needed to know they would tell me. I was wrong. With my newest i was 27 and i asked about EVERYTHING. If i even just had the feeling something was off i called and/or made an appt. After having a pregancy both ways, i'm telling you ask!Ans CONGRATS. It is scary but the best gift ever!
3 years ago
First off you're not alone... I'm 20, 14 weeks pregnant and was only with my boyfriend for a few months before we found out. I broke down crying alot not knowing what to do, who to talk to or how to even deal. It feels like everything is over, your whole life has to do a 180. But then my boyfriend came to the rescue. He let me cry it out and then we sat down and talked about it. We realized it was more of a gift than anything to be able to create a life and we could never get rid of it. I was still doubtfull and scared, and i'm not going to lie i still am. But it gets better and easier to deal with as time goes by and you get your family's support behind you.My
3 years ago
First off congrads and second you're not alone... I'm 20, 13 weeks pregnant and was only with my boyfriend for a few months before we found out too. I broke down crying alot not knowing what to do, who to talk to or how to even deal. It feels like everything is over, your whole life has to do a 180. But then my boyfriend came to the rescue. He let me cry it out and then we sat down and talked about it. We went in to hear the heart beat a few weeks ago and thats when it all sank in. It was then we realized it was more of a gift than anything to be able to create a life and we could never get rid of it. I was still doubtfull and scared, and i'm not going to lie i still am. But it gets better and easier to deal with as time goes by and you get your family's support behind you. My boyfriend (well, now husband) and i got married last week and my family has been really supportive even though i thought they would kill me.Cravings are interesting to say the least and sleepless nights are rough. You'll still have crying fits when you realize little things like you can't party on your 21st bday or you can't do the things you use to love (like for me was snowboarding and dirt biking). The day your jeans get alittle tight you'll get depressed but just remember this is only 9 months out of your life and then afterwards you have a little one for you and your partner to share everything you love with and have the joy of watching him/her grow. Listen to the moms on here they give great advice and the best part is that they are brutally honest but that's because they have been there and done that. Even if you are afraid to ask scan through the questions you'll find that someone has likely already asked it. I wish you the best of luck and again congrads!
3 years ago
Thank you all for your advice! It helps so much! I know I don't know you personally, but it's so nice to have people to talk to that understand exactly what you're going through....My biggest thing right now is that I'm not, I guess, "convinced" that I'm pregnant, I keep thinking of "what if's". I have an appointment on April 14th for my first ultrasound. Is it too early to get my hopes up.. I'm only 4 weeks and it's my first pregnancy, is there a good chance that this baby won't make it? Is it too early for me to experience pregnancy things... Like last night and this morning I couldn't fit into my jeans! I barely got them buttoned. I feel like I have gained like 5 pounds already.. And I don't eat as much as I did before I was pregnant, I have like no appetite. Another stickler....... We're telling our parents tonight and tomorrow.. I'm so scared, but I have come to the conclusion that they are going to have to learn to live with it I guess, right? Did everything go well when you told your parents??
3 years ago
I found out really early too. Not to sound weird but i kind of knew (and felt) pregnant before i even took a test. I think as a women you sometimes just know. My pants were a bit snug too and i found out that it's just bloating. I told my parents when i was about 6 maybe 7 weeks. They took it really rough at first and commented on how irresponsible i was to let this happen, that i was smarter than that. I cried for days because i felt i let my family down. My husband was there through it all and in the end i thing it made us stronger. My mom even went low enough to tell me to get rid of it but when i put my foot down and said no i'm keeping it regardless of what people said she seemed to get a sense of pride knowing i stepped up and took responsibility for my actions.Now my mom cant stop calling and telling me names she heard or cute maternity clothes she found. I call her now for every little thing from sleeping issues to "WTF is going on" help.  My father still isn't talking to me but he did send a congrads card so he's coming around. I think no matter what parents think at first deep down they want nothing more than to be grandparents.

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