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9 MONTH OLD JUST DECIDES NOT TO SLEEP UNLESS WE HOLD HER??? HELP ME!!!

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3 years ago
SHE WAKES UP AS SOON AS WE PUT HER IN HER CRIB! THEN IF WE WALK OUT AND SHUT THE DOOR SHE SCREAMS AND FAKE CRYS!! KICKS THE SIDE OF THE CRIB THROWS AN ABSOLUTE FIT!!! WHAT DO I DO? PLEASE HELP ME!!!

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3 years ago
babies sometimes go through this phase around 8-10 months from what I have read.  Best thing you can do is when it's bed time and you do the routine, put them in the crib and then walk out, if she starts to cry, just let her be for a few minutes.  If it continues, after a few minutes, go in, put her back down, rub her back, and then walk out.  Eachtime wait a few more minutes, Wait till the next comercial break, finish the dishes you get the idea.  It may take a few times, and it may seem like your just spinning your wheels.  Another thing is make sure your not putting her down when she's beyond tired.  Right when you notice she's getting sleepy, put her down, even try to start the bed time routine about 30 minutes eariler.  If she's too tired she will fight even harder.  My 11 month old goes through these nights sometimes.  Hope this helps out.  Good luck.
3 years ago
let her cry it out. you are only making the problem worse by running in there every time. put her down when she's tired, not asleep. she needs to learn how to fall asleep on her own. continue to run to her, and this will go on and on. i know it's hard, but it's the best thing you can do for your baby.
3 years ago
Yes, the best thing to do is let her cry it out and to lay her down before she is over tired. My husband bores our daughter to bed. He will hold her on the couch watching one of his shows and she is out before you know it. Doesn't work for me at all. Maybe switching who places her in her crib will help. Just a thought.
3 years ago
I would do a routine with her for a few nights. Sounds like she needs to self soothe. Maybe try a blankie and a good friend who doesn't mind hearing crying and take a short stroll with your hubby. She will be asleep before you get back. I think our little ones pick up on other peoples anxiety. Good luck
3 years ago
UGH!!!  All these cry it out advocates. :PYour baby is only a baby for a SHORT period of time. They learn how you are going to respond to them and learn how to respond to you in the first couple years of life. What are you teaching your baby by NOT answering their cries? You are teaching them that they don't matter and what is bothering them makes no difference to you.I have three kids and we didn't do the "cry it out" with any of them. The youngest is now 7 and all are completely well adjusted, happy and healthy children who know that I will be there for them no matter what. And, yes, they put themselves to sleep at night.I established a routine for them very early of bath, reading and bed starting at 6 months old. I rocked them to sleep until they were 2. Between 2 and 3 they transitioned to a big kid bed and I would lay down with them to read and they would snuggle until they fell asleep, then I would get up. Then I gradually left earlier and earlier each night until I simply gave them a hug and kiss after we read and left. By 3 each of them would go to sleep after the routine with just a kiss and hug. That's a very short timeframe in our lives!Have there been times of crying or getting out of bed? Sure. But they didn't happen very often and nighttime was pleasant for all of us with no screaming and crying.With my first I tried the "cry it out" method with going in to check on her at scheduled intervals for 2 nights. She screamed to loud and so long that after 2 hours I was ready to throw up from being so stressed. It was not the method for me or my husband. Bottom line: follow your gut and do what works for you and your family.  As I said, my youngest is now 7 and I often long for those days of rocking them to sleep! The days of being little are gone and they go by so VERY quickly.
3 years ago
everyone make a metal note-when your babies wake in the middle of the night, call momeaster, so she can "enjoy your babies" at 3 AM as well! lol
3 years ago
While babies need to know their parents care about their needs, they also need to know how to self soothe because like or not Mommy and Daddy can't always be around to calm them down. CIO is something even peditritions recomend. While it may seem mean it really isn't. Both my daughters started the method around 9 months, and would lay in bed and sing or babble until they fell asleep. The first 3 days were filled with crying but after that it was a blissful experience for everyone. They sleep like clock work even durning nap.

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