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How do I get my son to listen to my boyfriend and behave.

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2 years ago
When I am not around my son and my boyfriend are great together, My son listens and behaves himself but as soon as I come home he changes really fast. I don't know what to do anymore I try telling him and explain that he has to be nice and listen. My son will be three next month and is very advance for his age. I do not believe that pops on the butt work for him and when he gets mad or angry you can not get him to do anything. I am so lost and at my breaking point. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year.

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2 years ago
This sounds like normal toddler behavior. It's frustrating, but it's normal. My kids (4, 2 1/2, and almost 11 months) go crazy as soon as I get home. They miss me while I'm at school and they all fight for my attention, get super whiney, and are just generally more hard to handle than when I was gone. On days I'm not at school, they're normal all day long.In your case, I would have some special one on one time with your son as soon as you get home. He's been missing you and only wants your attention. If possible, limit the amount of discipline that comes from your boyfriend immediately after you get home, if only to avoid a little stress.
2 years ago
thank you very much. my son and i have one on one everyday but i will try harder with him once im home from work. my boyfriend gets him ready for school so hes the first person he sees in the morning since im at work. also my boyfriend isnt home when we get home he comes home maybe two gours later. how do i manage his anger and temper problem because i dont handle back talk very well.
2 years ago
thank you very much. my son and i have one on one everyday but i will try harder with him once im home from work. my boyfriend gets him ready for school so hes the first person he sees in the morning since im at work. also my boyfriend isnt home when we get home he comes home maybe two gours later. how do i manage his anger and temper problem because i dont handle back talk very well.
2 years ago
Be consistent with your discipline. With my kids, time outs work the best. My older two have always been upset about time outs, they will pretty much do anything to avoid them. Just saying the words "time out" makes them start crying (which is silly since they have so many toys in their rooms). So when they are misbehaving, I give them three chances. The first time they do something I don't like, they get told to stop and they get a short explanation of why the behavior is not acceptable. (Yelling isn't ok because it's too loud and scares the baby. Hitting isn't ok because it hurts. Stealing toys isn't ok because it's mean.) If they do it again, they get told to stop and are told that they will get a time out if they do it again. And, if they do it again, they get a time out.For most things, like hitting/kicking/pushing/taking toys, we're at the point that they get a time out the first time they do it. They know better and are getting old enough that they don't need so many chances. Being loud, touching things in stores, etc. get multiple chances. And, do your best to be patient. Toddlers can be a handful. But, they're just figuring out their own independence and how they fit into a grownup world. They will test boundaries with parents every chance they get because it's how they learn. Patience and consistency are your only tools to combat a toddler's willfullness. With time, it does get easier. Just take it one day at a time and try not to stress too much.

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