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how do i teach her to stay in table while shes eating ?

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3 years ago
I have a 2 year old daughter and when were eating in the table she always wants to run of with her plate to the livingroom or her playarea and eat over there..!! and if i tell her no bring back your plate and sit she crys and rathers not eat at all to go play. So i always end up letting her take of with the plate.. what can i do?

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3 years ago
Quit caving in!!!!! If you let her get away with stuff now, it will only get harder to make her follow the rules. She may cry a few times, but she will understand that what mom says goes. Crying could be her way of showing frustration. You could even tell her that you understand that she doesn't like what you are telling her but that we have to follow the rules. Another thing to consider is to make sure the tv is off while you are eating. Less distraction is better. If you encourage good eating habits now life will be easier later. My rule is that if you get up from the table you are done. No matter how much or how little has been eaten. My 10 year old had an issue for a while about needing to use the bathroom during a meal. This rule fixed it really quick. Good luck with peaceful meals :)
3 years ago
put her in a damn high chair! she's only 2! and stop giving in. it's not that hard, woman. you just make it that way. you are teaching her that she does not have to listen to mommy, because she's going to get what she wants by whining, and you give in.
3 years ago
2 years old is too young to expect that she will stay sitting at the dinner table. I would suggest that you can set the limit that the food has to stay at the table and that she can get up if she does not want to stay sitting. This way, you can establish your family rule, "food stays at the table," while also acknowledging and understanding that at her age, sitting still at the table may be too much to ask of her right now. When she gets upset that she can't bring the food with her, hold her and empathize with her. "You really want to bring the food with you and also the food has to stay here. This is so difficult and it seems like you are really sad about it." Trust that in time she will sit with you because she wants to be a part of the family activity. Between the ages of 2 and 4, children are experiencing huge growth in their middle brain, which is the emotional center of the brain. When our children are upset, really sad or angry, what is most crucial at this time is to give them lots of empathy. Help them to "feel felt." Let them know that you hear and understand what they are feeling. Giving them empathy does not mean that you have to agree with them, it just means that you are listening and connecting with them. Making emotional attachments with our children promotes healthy brain development. http://www.theechocenter.org/
3 years ago
2 years old is too young to expect that she will stay sitting at the dinner table. I would suggest that you can set the limit that the food has to stay at the table and that she can get up if she does not want to stay sitting. This way, you can establish your family rule, "food stays at the table," while also acknowledging and understanding that at her age, sitting still at the table may be too much to ask of her right now. When she gets upset that she can't bring the food with her, hold her and empathize with her. "You really want to bring the food with you and also the food has to stay here. This is so difficult and it seems like you are really sad about it." Trust that in time she will sit with you because she wants to be a part of the family activity. Between the ages of 2 and 4, children are experiencing huge growth in their middle brain, which is the emotional center of the brain. When our children are upset, really sad or angry, what is most crucial at this time is to give them lots of empathy. Help them to "feel felt." Let them know that you hear and understand what they are feeling. Giving them empathy does not mean that you have to agree with them, it just means that you are listening and connecting with them. Making emotional attachments with our children promotes healthy brain development. http://www.theechocenter.org/
3 years ago
Make it a house rule that everyone should only eat in the dining area. No one should be exempt, not even you, Mommy. That way we model what we want to see in our children. Sometimes my 20 month old has a problem with this - she likes to get up to walk around the table while eating or sit on my lap. In being frank and saying that she had to sit at her own chair and to only eat the food on the table this has reduced her walking and playing while eating. If she tries to get off the chair I ask if she's finished eating. If she says yes she has to wash her hands before she can go play. If not, I tell her to stay put and finish her food before she can go and play. Don't cave in. You can do it. Win the battle now so you won't have to rage a war later. 
3 years ago
Thank you every one i tryed it all and what best worked was not giving in..!! i told her her food belonged in the table and that if she were to get up it only ment she was finished. and that she was not going to be able to have any more food untill the next meal time... and apperently it worked =)

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