how do i teach her to stay in table while shes eating ?

2 years old is too young to expect that she will stay sitting at the dinner table. I would suggest that you can set the limit that the food has to stay at the table and that she can get up if she does not want to stay sitting. This way, you can establish your family rule, "food stays at the table," while also acknowledging and understanding that at her age, sitting still at the table may be too much to ask of her right now. When she gets upset that she can't bring the food with her, hold her and empathize with her. "You really want to bring the food with you and also the food has to stay here. This is so difficult and it seems like you are really sad about it." Trust that in time she will sit with you because she wants to be a part of the family activity. Between the ages of 2 and 4, children are experiencing huge growth in their middle brain, which is the emotional center of the brain. When our children are upset, really sad or angry, what is most crucial at this time is to give them lots of empathy. Help them to "feel felt." Let them know that you hear and understand what they are feeling. Giving them empathy does not mean that you have to agree with them, it just means that you are listening and connecting with them. Making emotional attachments with our children promotes healthy brain development. http://www.theechocenter.org/

Make it a house rule that everyone should only eat in the dining area. No one should be exempt, not even you, Mommy. That way we model what we want to see in our children. Sometimes my 20 month old has a problem with this - she likes to get up to walk around the table while eating or sit on my lap. In being frank and saying that she had to sit at her own chair and to only eat the food on the table this has reduced her walking and playing while eating. If she tries to get off the chair I ask if she's finished eating. If she says yes she has to wash her hands before she can go play. If not, I tell her to stay put and finish her food before she can go and play. Don't cave in. You can do it. Win the battle now so you won't have to rage a war later.