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How do we discipline our 2 year old WITHOUT spanking?

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3 years ago

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3 years ago
You need to think about way of both disciplining after the fact, and proactively avoiding the need to discipline. In terms of the former, time-outs are a tried and true method. Choose a chair or step somewhere in the house where there are no toys and no stimulation or entertainment--basically, somewhere boring. Time-outs should be one minute per years of age, so a two-year-old gets a two-minute time out, with an egg timer. The key to success is devoting the time and energy necessary to establishing the time-out routine. It can take hours the first day, and often on successive days, but over time, the parent only has to take the child there or tell him/her to go there. But at first, you must repetitively return the child to the time-out place without conversation other than, for example, "You hit your sister. It is not ok to hit. Time out."There are times I do feel a swat on the bum is warranted. if your child does something dangerous and there is no time for warnings or time-outs, such as if he runs into the street, a little swat to get his attention is a good idea. If you use that method for everything, it loses effectiveness and you're at risk for the ante being upped and spanking more often or harder. Don't go there.You can head off issues oftentimes by giving choices. "Do you want to sing with me while you put your toys away, or do you want me to read to you while you put your toys away?" If your child won't get dressed, ask "Do you want to wear this blue sweater or this red one?" Etc.Disciplining toddlers is challenging! A combination of the above is my suggestion.Lori Day, Educational Psychologist and Consultantwww.loridayconsulting.com
3 years ago
what's wrong with spanking a 2 year old? it only takes a few times for them to realize that when they don't behave they have consequenses! i promise you that it will be the quickest way to get his attention. time-out works from time to time, but theres nothing like a good old fashioned swat on the butt. works wonders in my house, because time-outs seem to have no effect on my daughter. i rarely have to spank her, because she is a very well behaved child.
3 years ago
How much does your 2-year old listen and understand?  My daughter understands when I say that I don't like her behavior and when I add a look of displeasure or disapproval, she gets the picture.  I usually start with "Look at me," and then we have a talk face to face where I explain what's wrong with her behavior and why she should stop or do something else. Another tactic I use is letting her have her way and ignoring her.  It usually forces her to come around on her own and realize that behaving the way she does (screaming or refusing an activity) gets no where.  For example, if she doesn't want to wear a sweater when it's cold, I just say "okay" and leave her be.  She will eventually come around and say in a sweet voice, "I like sweaters.  Mommy, can I wear my sweater now?" Because of my daughter's headstrong and wayward personality (like mine!), time-outs and other forms of discipline don't work because they cause her to rebel - which I definitely don't want!  Good luck to you, The Outlaw Mom
3 years ago
Consistency is the key! Redirection too. Always say no and redirect them. Most of the time they will go right back to doing the "no-no" but just keep doing it and eventually they will get it. Once they start understanding and verbalizing more then the time out option or taking away a toy option works. Good luck!
3 years ago
Why not try something else?  Spanking is hitting....don't let anyone fool you.  So much of throwing a "fit", is age appropriate behavior.  If the kid is frustrated, try to understand why.  Distract them, your job as a parent, is not to hit them, EVER!

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