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how do you deal with a miscarriage help me

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3 years ago
I'm 9 weeks just left the doctors office and I'm going lose my baby I can get a DNC or just let it all happen by its self please someone help me and tell me how to deal with this it was my first baby and this hurts so bad I don't know what to do or think

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3 years ago
im sorry to hear.i had it happen to me and it wasnt fun to say the least.i know you feel like your alone but i was amazed to find its more common than you think. i know that its doesnt help much but talking bout it does more than you think.you need to know that its NOT your fault!your body did it for a reason u maynot understand but remember this isnt your only chance things happen for a reason.i had let mine happen naturally and its very painful i just hope u have support from friends and family.i promise ull get thourgh it 
3 years ago
My sister went through the same thing today, except her bf abused her and is now going to prison (fortunately). She was 10 weeks and went in cause she was badly beaten and worried about the baby and unfortunately no heartbeat. I went through the same thing my first pregnancy, and lost it at 10 weeks (same for her) all you can really do mourn in your own way, talk about it with someone who will just listen to you (helps alot) cry (it feels really good to let that out), and you have to believe that youre baby is in a better place living a perfect life and you are still a mommy and next time (if you want one) dont stress that it will happen again (it's not very likely). Talk online with women who have experienced the same thing, that helped me. There are support groups and such. I am so sorry for your loss :(( It is an unfortunate terrible thing to go through and I would wish it upon no one. I am deeply sorry and I hope everything turns out well with you. I also let mine pass naturally (it is very painful, but I felt more right about it). You have my prayers and wishes.
3 years ago
Thank you everyone I am gettign the DNC because I don't know when I'm going pass the baby and it sucks knowing and having a died baby in you and my mom also my bf mom who is a doctor thinks it wil be better on both me and my bf to get the DNC they are going put me to sleep to I don't feel anyting and I won't know anything happen it's goign be painfully after everyting I getting it done tomorrow and not a loud to be alone for a day bc of all the drugs they are going put in me thankk you again and yes it does suck since this was going be my first baby and we already had names picked out for the baby but thank you and I will let yall know how everything goes
3 years ago
My wife and I went through two miscarriages prior to the birth of our son.  I think you are doing the right thing with the DNC.  I won't sugar coat it, it's going to be a painful process.  Even looking back now I feel the pain both my wife and I went through.  It's going to take time to heal what helped my wife and I was that with the second miscarriage we had a small service with our reverend and immediate family.  Everyone is different though, just take care of yourself for now and talk with others about how you feel.  Best of luck to you. 
3 years ago
I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss.
3 years ago
I lost a baby when I was 20 weeks. I went to find out if it was a boy or girl and he had no heart beat. It was the hardest thing I had to go through! I went to the hospital and had their help.I think that is the best thing to do. I can tell you that you will never 100% get over losing your baby but it does get easier with time. I now have a beautiful 4 month old daughter and going through what I did has made me a better Mom because I'm so grateful to have her. Just know that this happens and it's not your fault. My thoughts are with you.  
3 years ago
Thank  you everyone I am getting better with dealing with what happen me and my boy friend are we got 2 puppies to help me and everything and I didn't get the DNC it happen natrual the day before I had to get my DNC which is fine we aren't going try again for a long time we wanna make sure we know each other better since we have only been together for 7 months yes we live with each other but still wanna know each other better then what we do right now thank you again everyone
3 years ago
I just had a miscarriage in November and it is still very hard. I have dealt with it by talking to friends and family. Even though very sad, the thing you've got to remember is that things happen for a reason. The perfect example is my best friend who went through a terrible patch with some miscarriages when she was young, she ended up only having one ovary. They told her she would never have children. She was devistated. At the time her relationship was not good. The guy she was married to was not very nice and eventually she divorced him. She is now with a very great guy and as happy as ever ever, she is 42years old and has a 6 month old son.Now im not saying by any means that this is your "reasoning", but it just goes to show that things happen for a reason.
3 years ago
I just had a miscarriage in November and it is still very hard. I have dealt with it by talking to friends and family. Even though very sad, the thing you've got to remember is that things happen for a reason. The perfect example is my best friend who went through a terrible patch with some miscarriages when she was young, she ended up only having one ovary. They told her she would never have children. She was devistated. At the time her relationship was not good. The guy she was married to was not very nice and eventually she divorced him. She is now with a very great guy and as happy as ever ever, she is 42years old and has a 6 month old son.Now im not saying by any means that this is your "reasoning", but it just goes to show that things happen for a reason.
3 years ago
I took a pregnancy test on my birthday that said i was pregnant and i was 3 weeks late on my period and misscarried the same day. And the other misscarriage i had an ectopic pregnancy with twins and isscarried with the doctors help.. it was sad but i was only a mopnth pregnanct with both, mine was due to my iron i believeits sad because i ave baby fever and i cant get preggo and keep the baby. 

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