i am a mom of 2 boys and pregnant w/triplets. need help w/disclipline

I have two girls, ages 4 and 2.  They certainly fight and have a lot of "spunk", so they certainly try my patience regularly.  I have yelled like a maniac before, but what I've found that works the best is when I stay calm and talk to them in a quiet, calm voice, then use time out, then re-explain why they were in time out.  I have found over the years that we have less incidences when I use this approach.  But all kids are different.  I just  think they feed off the energy from the parents. 

I reccommend John Rosemond's website. Also the book "To train up a child" by Mike and Debi Pearl is excellent. Anything by James Dobson is good too. I have not personally read this one, but heard the book "Raising Godly Tomatoes" is great too. I don't know who the author on that one is though.

The key with toddlers is consistency. You absolutley need to enforce every rule every time. They will eventually get it and stop testing you, but getting to that point will be exhausting. You also need to make sure hubby and you are on the exact same page and doing the exact same thing. You need to present a united front and let them know that both of you are expecting the same exact thing, so one paernt doesn't undermine the other. The Champ Ladder is an excellent reward system that younger kids can see and that might help with consistency. champladder.com also Doorposts has great charts as well. doorposts.com