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I am really stressed out!

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3 years ago
My husband and I have been going to a therapist because of the recent miscarriages which is bringing up alot of things in the past that are depressing. I was working at dairy queen before and I had to quit because I didn't like the hours and I am happy to spend more time with my daughter but I have no time to myself now at all, my husband used to watch her when I was at work and then I would come home and take a nap so I wouldn't be tired I am always tired now. I can't even sleep because caitlyn goes to sleep at 8pm and wakes up at usually around 2 in the morning and then 5 and then sleeps untill 7 am and then we get up so I was tired then to but the difference is I got to take a 2 hour nap.My husband takes out the trash and vacuums but I have to do the dishes,laundry,pick up toys,cook every meal(breafast,lunch,dinner,desert,snacks, and caitlyns food). Then after all that I take caitlyn for walks or we go outside for like 35 minutes I play with her and then I try to get her to sleep and after my whole day has focused on cleaning,cooking and caitlyn I try to atleast talk to my husband. I am also stressed about the fact he is gonna go back to work in 9 days he was only suppose to be here 4-5 months and they would let us know when he had to get back there and they need him now so I am gonna miss him and I am so worried that there will be to much on his mind and he will turn his head for 3 seconds and then me and caitlyn will lose him.I just need advice I feel like I never have time alone but I feel like I don't spend enough time with my husband and my daughter, me and my hubby never have time alone I want to spend time with him but I don't have time.

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3 years ago
I know how you feel, but that's pretty much how it is as a stay at home mom. It's a lot of constant work and most of us feel overworked and underappreciated. But, your husband is the one making the money so it's only fair that if you're staying home, you're the one doing the housework. And is working really better than raising your daughter? I know I'd rather be home with my kids instead of at work while they were in daycare!As far as getting more time alone with him, I don't really have any suggestions. My husband and I are working on this too. We don't have any babysitters so we never, ever get to go out by ourselves. We're taking advantage of the family visits right now because we finally have someone who can stay with the kids. My husband is only in school right now so he's home every night but he and I both have homework to do in the evenings.I take naps with my kids when I can, but that doesn't really help with my exhaustion. I'm pregnant and with two toddlers I'm just wiped out no matter what. I enjoy cooking and getting to spend so much time with my kids that for me, it's worth it even if I don't get time to myself. My husband and I are working on getting more quality time with each other. Just last night he asked if I wanted to give him a foot massage. I really didn't want to but I did it anyway because I know that I need to show him how much I appreciate him just as much as he needs to show me.
3 years ago
I love spending time with my daughter and I would rather play with her instead of working, but I just feel like I do everything and I wouldn't trade it for the world but I usually don't even have time to take a bath.I just need some time to myself and then I am happy to be a mommy this is the life I wanted but I  just need a break sometimes.  
3 years ago
I know, I usually get 1 shower a week and it's been that way since Audrey was born, 3 years ago. For now I just use nap time for my "me time" and even though it isn't quite enough, it's better than nothing. I get one hair cut a year, I almost never get new clothes or shoes, I don't get manicures. I sacrifice a ton of stuff (and so does my husband) so that I can be a SAHM. I work hard and it drives me crazy when my husband comes home and asks me what I did all day. Right now I know I'm not working as hard as I should be, but I'm honestly exhausted all of the time. It's all I can do not to pass out 20 minutes after eating. (This pregnancy has been weird.) But normally, even if I feel like I'm doing all the housework I know it's worth it and I know it's my job. If I were working and my husband was home with the kids I know he'd have the house spotless every day. It's not easy but it's fair. The only time housework should be split evenly is when both parents are out working.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.
3 years ago
When my husband and I put the kids to bed at night we make it a point to sit down on the couch together and talk...it might not be a night out but it is time tg that we both look forward to.  We nor mally set a time to do this at least a half hour to most of the time it runs over.  I always have more cleaning to finish up and he has work to get done as well but we MAKE the time to see talk every night before we go on with whatever else we have to do.  As far as cleaning goes I am a huge freak about having a a nice hosue esp. with a crawling baby that puts everything in his mouth but I do try not to let the small stuff bother me.  Stuff like laundry can wait if needed.  I have learned some tricks to keeping my house clean and taking care of the kids. When the kids take a bath I will use wipe down my bathroom while they play in the tub and when I wash them up we play. When they get out of the tub I can psray it down, go get kids lotioned and dressed and settled down to play while I run back into the bathroom and wipe down the shower and rinse it off quick.  I feed my kids breakfast as I unload the dishwasher and all day long I am able to load it back up so my sink doesnt get full.  Little things like that is how I work quick around my house.  I have 3 kids and a great husband so I love being a stay at home mommy and taking care of them all.  One last tip for the hubby's...if you are so tired at night that you just like to pass out then set the alram a little earlier and have sex in the morning.  :)   It all seems so crazy now but after a few yrs life will settle down and we will miss these times.

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