First off, you don't need to use bleach for cleaning. You should use natural or organic cleaning products that are safe for both you and your baby. I like BabyGanics, Method and Seventh Generation, all of which can be found at Toys R Us and Babies R Us. Method and Seventh Gen. can be found at Target as well.Second, I know how you feel. Was your husband in the military? I only ask because my husband acts in similar ways sometimes and it's because he has PTSD from being in the Marine Corps and fighting in Iraq. In my case I know that any stress triggers the PTSD and anger issues. Even though I know he doesn't mean to get angry and normally does a very good job of controlling his anger, sometimes it's more than I can handle.I would imagine your fiance is drinking more because he just quit chewing. Chewing is an oral habit and he unconsciously feels the need to have his mouth busy. Unfortunately, he's swtiched from one very bad habit to another. He's probably also experiencing some stress and worry about your new baby. 26 is still somewhat young for a man and he may be worrying that he isn't ready.Unfortunately, I don't really have much advice for you. My husband and I both know what causes his anger and most of the time I just have to suffer through it and let it pass. We've had some discussions in the last week and he understands what he needs to do to change himself a little bit and he's also going to be seeing a therapist on a more routine basis. (He only just realized how much his PTSD affects him.)Try talking to him more, he does need to know how you feel and how his actions are hurting you. But beyond that he has to be the one to make the necessary changes. Obviously, he needs to drink less but that's a decision he has to make. There isn't really a way for you to make him do it.