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3 years ago
to all the people that remember me and the huge lie i told im sorry but people have been so mean to me and treated me differently and im pregnant now and nobody knows about it im alone i need support i cant do this all alone i dont know what to do im so scared i want the baby and i love this baby but im terrified im only 14 just pls understand i didnt want to hurt any of you ever but i need help i cant do this im crying just pls help me ive been bleeding all day i dont know if its normal i cant stop puking and i feel like my guts r being stepped on what do i do

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3 years ago
i just signed up on this website i wasnt here when all that happend but people seem to mention it alot so your like famous on here anyways i dont really know your situation but from what i picked up on your 14 and expecting the bleeding is normal ginger ale with help the sickness and your gut problem could be where your young and your small and your body is trying to make room for a baby that should be checked out and as for your metal state you need to tell your mom she will understand and you need someone to be there for you and you need someone to be there for you
3 years ago
I was a young mom too, i wasnt here for any of the bullshit and i prolly wouldnt care. ok, the bleeding? i never had that and my doctor told me with ANY bleeding u need to go into the doctor because it could be normal but it could be serious. misscarriages are the worst. You are going to throw up (i never did) but thats normal, now if its bad then u could have acid reflex which can  happen when u are preggo, so again going to the doctor and telling them ur symptoms would be the best decision. i will be here for you if u need the help and the lady above to im sure girl. anyother questions im here(: my name is nicki and im 18 right now.
3 years ago
I was a young mom too, i wasnt here for any of the bullshit and i prolly wouldnt care. ok, the bleeding? i never had that and my doctor told me with ANY bleeding u need to go into the doctor because it could be normal but it could be serious. misscarriages are the worst. You are going to throw up (i never did) but thats normal, now if its bad then u could have acid reflex which can  happen when u are preggo, so again going to the doctor and telling them ur symptoms would be the best decision. i will be here for you if u need the help and the lady above to im sure girl. anyother questions im here(: my name is nicki and im 18 right now.
3 years ago
I was a young mom too, i wasnt here for any of the bullshit and i prolly wouldnt care. ok, the bleeding? i never had that and my doctor told me with ANY bleeding u need to go into the doctor because it could be normal but it could be serious. misscarriages are the worst. You are going to throw up (i never did) but thats normal, now if its bad then u could have acid reflex which can  happen when u are preggo, so again going to the doctor and telling them ur symptoms would be the best decision. i will be here for you if u need the help and the lady above to im sure girl. anyother questions im here(: my name is nicki and im 18 right now.
3 years ago
Just find out anyone whom you can trust, rely on...share everything with him or her...Mind it: where there is problem, there is a solution...Thanks.Babysitting age
3 years ago
Just find out anyone whom you can trust, rely on...share everything with him or her...Mind it: where there is problem, there is a solution...Thanks.Babysitting age
3 years ago
You need to see a dr. you COULD have an etopic pregnancy which is very dangerous, you are bleeding and having bad stomach pain, yes this could be normal but better safe than sorry! You are really way too young to have a baby, you are certainly too young to say that you are keeping it afterall WHO will pay for this child? You probably do not work, will the fater help pay for the child or are you planning on just expecting your mother to pay for this child. You must tell her, she deserves to know what is going on and what you are thinking you want to do. Is she the type of mother that will understand and help you with the baby or will she think that adoption will be the answer. You are so young, did you get prego on purpose, I mean you say you want to keep the baby so I am just wondering if you have thought of the kind of life you can give this child. You are a child yourself, how can you justify bringing a baby into the world to keep for yourself when you cannot even work to pay for what this baby will need...prenatal care, vitamins, delivery, baby care, Dr. bills, immunizations, baby cloths, furniture, carseat, diapers, formula...all adds up fast and very costly...how are you going to pay for all that? Or are you just assuming your parents will flip the bill? Or the tax payers? Sorry if I seem harsh honey but it IS the reality of the situation! :o) TALK TO YOUR MOTHER! She deserves to know what is going on and what you think you want to do! Good luck little lady and keep us posted.. <3
3 years ago
regarding the bleeding especially--talk to a doctor!  the nausea, too, if it gets too bad you can get medication that will help.also, talk to your mom.  just as much as you want to help this baby, you are her baby, she wants to help you.  also, ask your doctor, there may be support groups in your area where you can meet with other expecting mothers.i know you care about this baby.  so give yourself time to think.  what is the best thing for this baby?  you want this baby to grow up in a happy, loving, healthy environment where he/she will have many opportunities.  be honest with yourself-can you provide a stable home?  who will help you?  b/c you can't do it alone.  you love your baby, so, again, give yourself time to think about how you can give your baby the best home.  adoption could give that to your baby.  and some adoption agencies actually only do open adotions (meaning that you could still be a part of the life of your baby, but allow him/her to have the advantages of a mom and dad in a stable, healthy home).  if you want somewhere to look check out lds social services.  they not only have an adoption program but also counseling and support groups of numerous kinds.
3 years ago
Listen, you don't have to make any decisions right now as to what you are going to do with the baby.  You do, however, need to get yourself as stable as possible.  I think everyone who has responded has good intentions but in the end, you have to do whatever your heart tells you is right.  Everybody's situation is different.  Don't listen to people who tell you you can't do something.  Maybe you can, maybe you can't.  Only you will know that.  I know you must be terrified right now but that shows that you are taking this seriously.  Heck, I am 42 and was terrified when I found out I was pregnant!  It is normal....you are sick, scared and feel very alone.Is there anyone you can turn to?  A doctor?  A community group?  A counselor?  Are there are some support groups that you may be able to join where there are others in your same situation?   I think the social services idea that someone suggested is a good place to start. You also should see a doctor as soon as possible so they can reassure you that the physical things you are feeling are normal.  Or, if they are not, then you will have the care you need.I will say, my mom got pregnant with me when she was 15.  It was hard and she was definitely treated differently by everyone she knew (it was the 50s) but she did it.  It is possible if you really want the baby.  But you need to get yourself as stable as possible and get informed about all your options so you can make the best decision for the baby.  If it's adoption, then it's adoption but you will have made the decision in a stable frame of mind, knowing all the facts.  Also, I don't know your situation, but remember, that often people react out of shock, or fear themselves.  Perhaps those in your life (parents maybe) just need to come to terms with this and need some time.  Of course, like I said, I don't know your situation.The panic you feel will pass.  It doesn't feel like it now, but it will.  You have a lot going on but it will get better.  You are stronger than you know.  You have already taken the first step by reaching out even if it's just on a website. 
3 years ago
I think halla90 said it best. Right now the most important thing is your and your baby's health. I'm not saying you shouldn't plan for the future, but if you don't see a doctor and take care of yourself you could cause serious harm to the both of you. The pain and vomiting is totally normal. The bleeding sounds abnormal to me, but to others it isn't, however only a doctor can tell you for sure.And everyone else is right, go to your mom about this. If my daughter were pregnant, yeah I would probably be upset, but I would also be there for here and support her every step of the way. What else do you think your mom is there for? Your mom will understand, everyone else here is a mom, and we all understand too.

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