If your husband isn't ready it's best that you wait before getting pregnant again. Your daughter is only about 7 or 8 months old right now, right? Getting pregnant now means having two in diapers, two needy little ones, two naughty toddlers...And while all that can be great, it's a lot of work. My kids are 18 months apart and I can't take my eyes off of them for a second. I absolutely adore them and I love that they have a great relationship because they're so close in age but it also means that I need a lot of help. I would go insane if my husband weren't as wonderful and helpful as he is. He wanted our kids close together just as much as I did and was prepared for the amount of work that it would take. But if he wasn't 100% on board with everything it absolutely wouldn't work for our family. So, if your husband wants to wait, no matter what his reason may be, you have to wait. Adding a second child adds more than twice the amount of work of having just one child. You want him to be ready for that, not sad over your shared loss, not even remotely resentful that it happened too quickly. Give him the time he obviously needs.