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i'm 14 years old and 3 weeks pregnant

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3 years ago
i am 14 years old, a freshman in high school, and i think, not positive yet, that i'm 3 weeks pregnant. i'm scared, really scared. it was my first time having sex with a guy i dated for 6 months, after we had sex, he dumped me a week later, and then i started showing symptons of being pregnant. i don't know what do. i dont know what to eat or say to my parents, idk how i can do it financially and i refuse abortion but i can consider adoption, but i want my child. help!

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3 years ago
Maybe talking to a counselor would help?  Open Adoption and Family Services has a 24 hour hotline and they don't only counsel adoption but also will let you know of the resources in your area if you choose to parent, and health care services to make sure you are pregnant or not.  I'm sorry that you are dealing with so much at a young age, but you will need to find someone to trust...hopefully your parents but if you aren't ready to talk to them yet, try the counselor, they will listen and maybe help you figure out the next logical step and help you figure out a way to talk to your parents?  I hope you find your way, best wishes.  The phone to OAFS is 1-800-772-1115, or you could look them up on facebook or you can look them up at www.openadopt.org 
3 years ago
i kno how scared you are. i was was only 17 when i got pregnant. you don't need to tell the father until you know for sure that you're pregnant. you need to find some way to get a pregnancy test, then tell your ex boyfriend. ask him what he plans on doing and if one of those things is stress you out then he needs to just stay away. my baby's father was so stressful, constantly pressuring me to get an abortion or give her up for adoption that it complicated my pregnancy.tell him to either help you or leave you alone. then, after you know how things are going to be with him, talk to your parents and tell them you need to get to a doctor. i'm sure they'll love you and support you. if you need any support from someone who's been there, you can contact me via email at neciaboykin@rocketmail.com or on facebook by searching Necia Boykin. i'll give you all the support and advice you want.
3 years ago
i kno how scared you are. i was was only 17 when i got pregnant. you don't need to tell the father until you know for sure that you're pregnant. you need to find some way to get a pregnancy test, then tell your ex boyfriend. ask him what he plans on doing and if one of those things is stress you out then he needs to just stay away. my baby's father was so stressful, constantly pressuring me to get an abortion or give her up for adoption that it complicated my pregnancy.tell him to either help you or leave you alone. then, after you know how things are going to be with him, talk to your parents and tell them you need to get to a doctor. i'm sure they'll love you and support you. if you need any support from someone who's been there, you can contact me via email at neciaboykin@rocketmail.com or on facebook by searching Necia Boykin. i'll give you all the support and advice you want.
3 years ago
On the topic of whats best for the baby, i'm the baby born to a 14 year old. She was scared, lonely, had only had sex once and the much older guy bailed, and lived in an abusive home. that one time resulted in my conception, and yea, she kept me for selfish reasons; to be loved unconditionally for once. But i can vouch and say that she is absolutley the most loving, caring, and strongest mother i've ever known. You just need to ask yourself: are you willing to give up everything to be what the baby needs? To do whats best for her or him from now on, NO MATTER WHAT? and that starts now sweetie, with how you take care of yourself while pregnant. Like trading in the hour of doing your hair and makeup before school for a little extra sleep, or deciding to eat baby carrots instead of that bag of cheetos, and staying out of the hot tub even though all your friends are having a blast. its a really hard path, even when the pregnancy goes smoothly. My mom had to put herself into foster care at 15 to keep us together when the state took me, we were foster sisters, then fight the state for my custody. She had to work 3 jobs to feed me and my brothers as a single mom later on. She graduated highschool and college with 3 kids, for us, and was mature enough from the beggining to never be my friend. She was always just my mom, and that taught me a lot of valueble lessons on life, types of love, and respect. You're life isnt yours anymore when you're a mom, you're not allowed to be selfish at the expense of your child. Its a rough road, but its do-able. I pray i can be half as strong with my little boy as my mother was, and now that i'm a mom, she's my best friend
2 years ago
Hey im 15 and a freshmen also. I know how you feel because i just found out im 5 weeks pregnant and it's pretty shocking. Neither do i know how to tell my parents.. So i guess we're pretty much in the same situation. It's hard to give up on a kid and people tells me a lot that it's gonna be hard but all we need to do is think positive. Anyways if you want more details just ask. Hope the best for you. :)

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