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Is it ok for my 6 year old to sleep with her father?

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5 months ago
I AM A WIFE AND HAVE A 6 YEAR OLD LITTLE GIRL AND MY HUSBAND SLEEPS WITH HER WHILE I HAVE TO SLEEP IN THE OTHER BED! THIS IS SO UNHEALTHY AND HE TELLS ME I'M INSANE!!!!!! I HAVE WOKE HIM UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT HEARING HIM HAVING SEX IN HIS DREAMS WHILE BESIDE OUR DAUGHTER AND HE GOES APE ON ME FOR WAKING HIM UP AND TELLING HIM HE NEEDS TO GET IN THE OTHER BED BECAUSE HE IS HAVING SEX IN HIS DREAMS! I AM STUCK IN A DEEPLY BAZAAR MARRIAGE AND I KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG AND THIS ISN'T RIGHT! HE TELLS MY DAUGHTER I'M INSANE FOR WANTING HER TO SLEEP BY HERSELF BECAUSE SHE IS A BIG GIRL! IT'S DIFFERENT FOR A MOTHER AND CHILD TO SLEEP TOGETHER WAY DIFFERENT! MEN HAVE HARD ONS IN THE MORNING AS WELL AND ITS NOT AT ALL HEALTHY FOR A FATHER TO BE CUDDLING WITH THEIR LITTLE GIRLS WITH A HARD PENIS! AM I CRAZY FOR THINKING THIS WAY? MY HUSBAND SAYS I NEED HELP AND I AM A NUT CASE FOR THINKING THIS WAY! THEY SLEEP IN A BED TOGETHER AND I SLEEP IN ANOTHER BED BY MYSELF! PLEASE HELP!

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5 months ago
Dear Lord, NO, it's NOT OK. Your husband is more that likely a pedophile, Get her and any other children you have away from him. Do not wait another second, doing so is throwing your daughter to the wolves! This is not normal , he is making you think you are crazy and you are not. You are a coward and need to protect your daughter. Get someone to help you confront him and get away! You have to understand that he is a sick person and something will eventually happen if it hasn't already. Of course he will beg and plead if you go, but you are married to a sicko and the protection of your daughter is what you should be concerned about and not him. Your life will go on without him. You need to report this and have documentation so to prevent unsupervised visitation. Now get your daughter and get out, don't let this go on another night!
5 months ago
The fact you waited this long to do anything about is just proves your husband right, you ARE insane ... for allowing it to happen in the first place! How long has this been going on? Instead of coming here seeking advice, grab your kid(s) and run! Just out of curiosity, before you married and agreed to have children with this monster, weren't there any signs? How long did you know him before you got married, anyway? Was he ever convicted of rape? Ever spend time in jail for ... anything at all? Was he previously married? Same problem? Why do women marry weirdos and then proceed to have children with them and complain? I don't get it *shaking head*. No matter what he says or does, if he threatens you with a lawsuit, if he says he'll kill you, if he says he's going to kidnap your daughter ... do what it takes right NOW to get the hell out of there. Leave your belongings, move in with your mother (or a trusted relative) and call the cops on his sorry arse before he gets you for kidnapping! If he's desperate enough, he'll do anything to make you look incompetent; don't let it get to you. Report him to the police before he even realizes your gone. And ... DO NOT leave your daughter unsupervised. Ever. Meaning, unless you're with her 24 hours a day (in the beginning), there's no saying what he'll do. Take her out of school, don't even leave her with a parent or friend until you feel you're safe. Some mother bear you turned out to be. No disrespect, but seriously ... this NEVER should have happened. At first mention you should have gone straight to the cops and had a restraining order against him. Wishing you all the best.

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