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Kids and sickness

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1 year ago
So I have been hanging out with a mom and her kiddos from my son's ECFE class. This mom is great and all but she is such a stickler for germs. I understand, to a point I guess. Her son who is my child's age a few wks ago had a cold/ear infection. The following one my son got the same thing. No biggie to me. The boys had not been around each other for awhile and was 2 wks past when my son was done with his meds that they saw each other. We met at the park this past week. That was Wednesday and on Saturday she posts on FB that he is sick and he got it from my child. She said that they didn't go anywhere all week and it had to be from him. She keeps posting things that make me feel quite bad about it. But IMO, you keep your children cooped up from all these germs and what not, yes they will catch something the second you bring them out. They are kids and get sick, heck we all do. But they need to build up their immunity. Am I right or what should I do? I feel bad but now today she said he has a fever and had to bring out his nebulizer. My son didn't have a fever with this past cold and we didn't bring out his neb either. I feel like she is blaming me and now we won't see them until everyone is healthy 100% again. And she is ALWAYS asking how my son is feeling and I hate it. Ok enough venting, but I'm just frustrated because the boys do play really well together and usually her and I get along really well.

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1 year ago
I am not a germophobe by any means. My kids have always eaten food off the floor, have chewed on shopping cart handles, etc. A lot of people think that's awful. I don't. My kids get sick *maybe* once a year. About a year and a half ago my husband and I got the flu from some friends. He was in bed for a week. I was sick for two (because I had to take care of the kids and him while I was sick). The kids each spent one night with a high fever. Their sickness didn't go beyond that.Studies have proven that exposure to everyday germs stregnthens a child's immune system, which allows them to fight of illnesses faster. My kids are the healthies kids I've ever seen. No ear infections, no asthma, no allergies, etc. So, I think this lady is overreacting big time. She needs to put away the Purell and let her kid be a kid. I he gets sick, so what? Each cold helps build his immune system, which sounds like it's fairly weak.
1 year ago
Oh, also, I'm a SAHM and my kids only get out in public once or twice a week. They play with other kids, are around tons of people at the grocery store, etc. and they still don't get sick.
1 year ago
THANK YOU! I would love to tell her hey, don't be putting this in my face about him. I too am a SAHM and our son was even formula fed (and they say they aren't as healthy as breast fed babies) and he is so healthy its ridiculous. He dodged the flu two years in a row when both me and my hubby had it. One small fever this winter which lasted not even 12 hrs and one small ear infection. That's it! But how do I say something to this mom. We have become friends and our kids get along great when we do get playdates with them. It's just frustrating. And my sons last cold (which he still has a runny nose, not a big deal!) was not even to the extent her son's is turning out to be. And us too, let him eat food off the floor, let the dog lick his fingers/face, would drop the nuk...simply wipe it on our pants and give it back to him, eat a little dirt, and he is just fine! I'm sorry but I'm just frustrated and feel like I'm getting blamed for this!
1 year ago
THANK YOU! I would love to tell her hey, don't be putting this in my face about him. I too am a SAHM and our son was even formula fed (and they say they aren't as healthy as breast fed babies) and he is so healthy its ridiculous. He dodged the flu two years in a row when both me and my hubby had it. One small fever this winter which lasted not even 12 hrs and one small ear infection. That's it! But how do I say something to this mom. We have become friends and our kids get along great when we do get playdates with them. It's just frustrating. And my sons last cold (which he still has a runny nose, not a big deal!) was not even to the extent her son's is turning out to be. And us too, let him eat food off the floor, let the dog lick his fingers/face, would drop the nuk...simply wipe it on our pants and give it back to him, eat a little dirt, and he is just fine! I'm sorry but I'm just frustrated and feel like I'm getting blamed for this!
1 year ago
THANK YOU! I would love to tell her hey, don't be putting this in my face about him. I too am a SAHM and our son was even formula fed (and they say they aren't as healthy as breast fed babies) and he is so healthy its ridiculous. He dodged the flu two years in a row when both me and my hubby had it. One small fever this winter which lasted not even 12 hrs and one small ear infection. That's it! But how do I say something to this mom. We have become friends and our kids get along great when we do get playdates with them. It's just frustrating. And my sons last cold (which he still has a runny nose, not a big deal!) was not even to the extent her son's is turning out to be. And us too, let him eat food off the floor, let the dog lick his fingers/face, would drop the nuk...simply wipe it on our pants and give it back to him, eat a little dirt, and he is just fine! I'm sorry but I'm just frustrated and feel like I'm getting blamed for this!
1 year ago
My first two were also formula babies. I know a lot of breastfed babies who are constantly sick, so it drives me crazy to always hear that breastfed babies are healthier.As far as talking to her goes, I'm not really sure how to handle it. I really only have one mommy friend and she and I are extremely similar. Maybe you could say something the next time she mentions it on facebook. That would be a little easier than handling it in person. Or maybe instead of saying something in "public" on fb you could just send her a private message telling her that it bothers you that she blames you for getting her kid sick.

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