Lovin, I've gotten to Know Oceana a little bit over the last couple of months and from what I've seen, she's a very loving mother and a nice person. We all have crazy ideas sometimes, especially during pregnancy. I have a crazy feeling that I'm having twins, even though two ultrasounds have only shown one baby. I just can't shake the feeling and I can't stop thinking about it. It's not to the point that I'm buying an extra car seat or crib or anything, but partof me definitely believes it. Does that make me crazy or an unqualified parent? No. It makes me pregnant. Hormones can make a person a little irrational.I had a terrible childhood too, with a single mother who was probably bipolar and who was definitely doing drugs at times to get her through school and two jobs. I pretty much had to raise myself. Does that mean I judge other people's parenting abilities based on questions they ask on the internet? No. Because I don't know that person and taking random moments out of context doesn't present an accurate picture of who they are.I know that Oceana and her husband are going through a very difficult time right now because she's had two miscarriages in less than 5 months. If she asks something a little silly I cut her some slack because I can't imagine dealing with what she's going through. We ALL have our "duh" moments, no one is perfect. Parenting is tough and not everyone knows how to deal with every single situation. When I thought my son ate an air freshener I freaked out when I realized I didn't have the number for poison control anywhere. Thankfully, I spend a ton of time on the computer so my first thought was to Google it. But plenty of other people who aren't as computer savvy probably wouldn't think of that and would just panic because they didn't know what to do. That doesn't mean they're crazy or stupid. Parenting is hard sometimes and there are definitely times when keeping a cool head is more difficult than it should be. Like, when someone is already dealing with a lot of stress and emotional pain, for instance.So if you think someone is stupid, why don't you just keep it to yourself. There are plenty of other people here who are willing to answer any question, no matter how silly, strange or stupid it may sound. Plenty of people here want to offer advice and support, not criticism and judgment.