UHm I have to agree with pinkpaisley8709, why in the world does your 12 year old have a boyfriend? No judgement or anything like that, because you do sound like a great mom who is concerned. But like alot of other people are saying MONITOR MONITOR MONITOR. Thats great that you have her password, but 12 year olds are not stupid. She could have conversations in her email and delete each one as the conversation is going on, so you NEVER have the chance to read them. And just because your computer is in a well trafficced area, what about when she goes to a friends house? Do they have computers n thier rooms? Teens are so much different today. They are more sneakier, and more rebelous. When I was 14, I had a friend that was 12 and she had sex with all different kinds of guys, drank with her older sisters quite frequently, and smoked ciggarettes, and her mom had NO clue whatsoever! Her mom thought she was just the greatest kid ever, she bragged about her all the time, and she even was an honor roll student! All Im saying, is never turn your head, not even for a moment. My dad gave me alot of freedom, let me do whatever I wanted, let me have boyfriends young, and the next step was having sex, at 14. And I wish he would have put his foot down and told me NO! I hated him for awhile, after I was an adult and realized that he wasnt truely being my parent.