This was a really hard question for me to read and answer honestly, because I don't know what kind of a mother you really are. I can assume because you asked the question and are concerned that you really are a loving and attentive mother, but I can tell you from experience that not all children who turn to a grandparent have that same kind of parent at home. My neice is 5 years old and has never really had a connection with her mother. She loves her mother, but not the same way she loves my mother in law. When she is sick, she wants Grandma, when she does something well, she wants Grandma. She lives with both her mommy and daddy and has an extremely loving relationship with her daddy, but they don't live but maybe 5-10 minutes from my in laws. My neice will run past or under her mother's arms to get to daddy at the end of the day. She spends A LOT of time over at her grandparents house, nights, weekends, holidays, etc. I've always had issues with that because to me it put distance between her and her mother. The only way my sister in law knows how to play with her is by putting make up on her or shopping with her. She doesn't take the time to find out what my niece is interested in and always puts herself before anyone else in their family. I am DEFINITELY NOT saying this is your fault at all or that the situations are anything alike, but I do agree with ashley's mommy that taking extra special time or doing special things just you and her will go a long way to strengthing your bond. Make sure you do things that she's interested in. Really look at your relationship to make sure that you both are getting out of it what you need and want. Sometimes as busy adults, we tend to get what needs to be done mixed up with what we want to do especially with our kids. I have to be really careful that when I'm at home it's about my kids, not always about needing to do housework, or catch up on bills. I have to put it aside and have a fun day on the floor playing games. I hope this helps some. I think because you are concerned that you are a good mother and just need to find that special thing that can be just the two of yours.