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my child is sleeping in my bed

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my child is sleeping in my bed

I always said that my child will never sleep in our bed. I am a single mom now and i kinda dont mind it but i do not want this to become regular. He starts off in his bed and ends up in mine. how can i keep him in his bed? or what makes them get up and come in there?
asked by Leslie Hanhart 2 years 7 weeks ago
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by sunshinesmommy09 submitted 2 years 7 weeks

ok, since the little one has gotten used to you letting him sleep with you you have to sleep train him. you'll be tired (both of you) you'll be cranky (both of you) but in the end you'll both sleep independently.

when he comes into your room, take him back to his bed. every time. don't talk to him, just put him back in his bed. you'll have the urge to give in so you can sleep but the only way to get him to understand is to make him stay in his bed. it would work best if he were in a crib since they are harder to get out of, but if he's in a regular bed you'll have to sleep walk pretty much. hope that helps, good luck.

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by pinkpaisley8709 submitted 2 years 7 weeks

you started the problem, and the only way that you are going to break the habbit is to refuse to allow your child to sleep in your bed! it's not that hard, unless you make it that way. just put your foot down. if you don't want the kid in your bed, then don't allow it. it's that simple!

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by tanniah submitted 2 years 6 weeks

If you are both okay with the current situation, why worry yourself about changing it?  Sometime, when he's ready, he will stop visiting your room at night.  Seriously, for all of our anxiety about making our kids diaper/bottle/bed independent, they all seem to outgrow these things on their own when left alone.

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by flygirl2happy submitted 2 years 5 weeks

if you don't mind, don't sweat it.  Both of my kids slept with me and it's some of the fondest memories I have.  It was our time to read and talk and I really loved it.  When they grew out of it, they stopped.  Of course others had their opinions but in the end, who cares.  I wouldn't change the way I did it for anything and what others said made no difference.  I say let him stay.  He'll be grown and gone soon enough.  

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by mystice_eye_cda submitted 2 years 5 weeks

The majority of people on earth, and throughout history have woken during the night.  Without electric lights you tend to go to sleep shortly after sundown, and not start working until around sun up.  But adults don't need that much sleep.

Also no matter where you live, you go through the same stages of sleep which means you wake up multiple times per night whether you remember or not.  This ensures that in a group of humans someone is always awake enough to keep the group safe from predators.  This is also probably why teens tend to sleep at a different time of day than adults.

Co-sleeping (which includes room sharing) until age 5 and beyond has been shown to reduce the rates of mental illness in adulthood, and again is the norm for the majority of people in the majority of cultures and history.  Really you generally only have to go 1-3 generations back in Western culture (depending on the area) to find when it was normal to go from sleeping with your parents to sleeping with your siblings -usually in a shared bed.

If you are both getting a good night's sleep, and content then leave it.  If one of you isn't sleeping well or isn't happy with the arrangement then change it.  A small daybed or hideaway bed can help if one of you is a light sleeper (or a blanket hog).  Or if you really hate being woken up when he comes it at night even a sleeping bag on the floor can be an option.  Or you can encourage change by using sticker charts, rewards, and making his room more comfortable.

But they do grow up fast, and no one takes their mom with them to sleep in their college dorm room

 

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