Stop helping her have garage sales to raise the $6K. Every time you help her, you're indicating that you support her in raising the money. Get her involved in other activities with other kids. Sports, music, scouts, performing arts, dance, camp, horse-riding, dog training, arts & crafts, anything, everything. Better yet - do you know anyone in the neighborhood or in your circle of friends who have babies? Maybe get your daughter set up with a babysitting job. Yes, 9 is much too young to take care of a baby/toddler on her own, but she could be a great "mother's helper" - playing with the toddlers/babies while the mom does dishes, checks her email, or does some cleaning (anything where the mom is still in the house, so your daughter can have an adult around in an emergency). Your daughter's going through a phase. I wanted a little sister when I was eight or nine (and I already had a younger brother). I can't say it'll pass, but it'll lessen over time, as she makes friends and find other outlets for her energy and capacity for affection/relationships. You shouldn't apologize to her for not having another baby. It's not her choice; it's yours and your husband's. It's not something that up for debate or discussion. It just is. It's a hard lesson for a 9-year-old, yeah, but she's going to have to learn that some things aren't in her control. Good luck.