I am 13 weeks and 3 days. I am almost in my second trimester, and super excited about it. Now on to my problem. I went over to my sisters house for thanksgiving and we stayed there for a while because we had family coming in. And so my problem is, My sister is pretty much telling me I am gonna be a horrible mom. Now let me tell you about my sister. She has 3 kids, Kylie,14. Lucas,11. Sara,2. shes 37, her husband has a good job. You would think her kids have a pretty good life, but it's exactly the opposite. I do not doubt for one second that she loves her kids, but I don't think she's a good mom at all. She's way to lazy! Her oldest daughter stays up untill about 3am, her son around the same time. Her daughter Sara stays up untill like 4am. And then they all sleep untill like 2pm. When her son wakes up, he has cookies, ice cream, or reese cups. Her oldest daughter usually makes pizza rolls, or eats a sandwich. And her youngest daughter doesn't eat, if she does, it's a nutty bar. Moving on, her daughter Sara wears the same diaper almost all day. Her son doesn't know what letters look like, hes 11 and he can't read to save his life. Her oldest daughter won't go outside without her mom because she is afraid of people, at 14. Her son will get mad sometimes and throw things at people and hit them, and she does nothing about it. We had to leave because he got mad at me and almost kicked me in the stomach. Her oldest daughter usually takes care of Sara. I know my sister really cares about her kids, she loves them to death. And she does the best she can. But I don't think that she of all people has the right to judge me. I know I am young, but I also know that I could do a hell of a lot better than she is doin. Plus her daughter is one of those, "I wanna wait untill I am married and I hate everyone that doesn't agree with me" type of people. So obviously she and I have issues. How can I get them to back off? I understand that it's not the ideal situation but nobody is perfect. And in my eyes the perfect parent is someone who really genuinely cares about being a good parent, someone that really tries.