You're not alone, and neither is your daughter - there are plenty of people in the same exact boat. (I was one of them for the first year of my son's life - and lucky, too, my son was too young to ask about Daddy!) Because you use the term "deployed" I'm assuming your husband is in one of the armed services, yes? Most of the services have fantastic support groups for spouses left behind. I cannot urge you enough to get in touch with these groups as soon as you can, if you're not already. Find out who the other mothers are, and get a playgroup going. The kids can play with other kids in the same boat ("My daddy's gone" "Mine too"), and you can have some time to talk to other mothers going through the same issues, trade advice on how to deal with the specific issues to your situation, and get/give the support YOU need as well. It sounds like you've got all the right ideas for keeping your little one busy and active. Having a setback with milestones (such as the toilet training) is completely normal for kids under stress or going through life changes - and certainly, her daddy being away is one big life change! Be firm, don't scold, stick to the routine as much as possible, and go through whatever process worked the first time again. Once she is reassured that YOU aren't going away either, she'll settle back in. *hugs* I know it's hard. You can do it. I promise it'll be okay.