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1 year ago
I don't want to offend anyone, at all. I just noticed a few things that I would like to point out and give my opinion on. I have not been on very often, I have been really busy, I have a 7 month old crawling around trying to put everything in his mouth, and 2 older kids that like to make messes. Just a few days ago I decided to get on here, and I noticed that someone had posted something about a soon to be mommy, Teengirlinlove. There was a few comments that I kinda found a little judge-mental and I feel that some of the things said were pretty harsh. First off, to the people saying she should put her baby up for adoption, I don't think it's anyone place to tell her how to handle this situation. Only she can make that decision. I agree parenting is hard, but just because she's young does not mean she can't be a great mother. I know plenty of young mothers that are a lot better than some of the older moms I know. Not only are they very determined and great at sticking to punishments, but they are young enough to actually play with there kids. I am in my 30's and it's hard to get down and play with my kids, I'm old, and I don't have the energy to play. I am in no way saying that all kids should have kids, but honestly I think being a parent at a younger age does have it's benefits. And going by her posts she is very determined to be a great mom, and that's all that matters, is that she is really willing to try her best at parenting. I understand it's really hard, I thought I was going to go insane when my kids were younger. I am working, I am trying to go to college, I have a baby and it's stressful but that doesn't mean we don't get through it. Okay now on to my advice. Do what feels right to you, do NOT make a huge decision based on what others want you to do. When I was 15 I got pregnant, and my mother made me get an abortion, I have regretted it ever since.I am able to take care of that baby now and I feel guilty for not trying when I was younger. It haunts me everyday of my life. I always have dreams about how my life would be with that baby, and it kills me to think about it. I love my kids with all my heart and I could never think of hurting them, and then the fact that I let her do that just over whelms me with guilt. Now adoption may be a good idea for you, but do it because you want to, not because others think you should. If you wanna keep this baby, I think you got a great shot at being a great mother. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't be a mother because you're young, age really has nothing to do with it, I know a lot of mature 14 year olds that could be better parents than I could. I try my best, but that doesn't mean I don't struggle every second of it, and I am older. No matter how old you are or how much experience you have. Parenting is hard, for everyone. :) Good luck to you and your family and your boyfriend! I hope everything works out for you! And Congratulations!

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1 year ago
Thanks! :) Everyone looks at it as a bad thing, but to me a baby is always a blessing. No matter how old I am my baby is a gift from god, and I could never give that away.
1 year ago
i agree with you. i think some times some of the people on this site can be rude in their approach to giving advise. dont judge people on one factor such as age. think before you type. maybe to someone else you are to young and immature to be having children.
1 year ago
There are pros and cons to having a baby at any age. My feeling is, there are always a million reasons not to have a baby, but usually very few reason to have a baby. It is so rare that anyone is in that ideal, perfect situation to have a baby. It seems like there is always at least one big hurdle that makes it seem like it's a bad idea. Whether it's age, financial situation, or something else, our rationality seems to point us toward not having a baby. Having a baby is a decision that should made with your heart, with only a little input form your head.I agree that if having a baby is something that someone truly wants, they will find a way to make it happen and to make everything work out. Some situations are more difficult than others, but it is possible to prevail in all of them. If there is enough family support, I think anyone, no matter what their age, can raise a child well. But, there's no denying that teenagers have a whole lot of challenges that adults don't usually have.When I was pregnant with my first baby my mom tried to talk me into having an abortion because she felt "it just wasn't a good time" for me to have a baby. I was 24. My husband had already proposed to me before we found out I was pregnant. I'm sure she didn't want me to make a mistake, like she did. She was 18 when I was born and our lives were very, very difficult. But, that was because she's someone who just shouldn't have had kids. She had no idea what she was doing and did a very poor job as a parent. I am incredibly grateful to have grown up with tv shows like The Brady Bunch and Leave it to Beaver. I'm not joking when I say that they raised me. They showed me what happy families looked like, and what good moms were.I think that Teengirl is definitely dedicated to the idea of keeping and raising her child. I do sincerely hope she makes the best choice for her baby, whatever it may be. And I hope she does a lot of research and talks to a lot of people about what raising a child is really like. That's the only way to get an idea of how much work it will be. I started babysitting when I was 9. I've been a nanny. By now I've had 20 years of exeperience caring for children, both other people's and my own. But, until I had my first baby, I wasn't really prepared for what it was like to be a mother. No one in my family told me what it was like, and I was the first of my close friends to have a baby. Luckily, I had that experience with other people's kids, otherwise, I would have been competely lost and overwhelmed.
11 months ago
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