my daughter is 22 months. at around 18 months, we purchased a DVD called , "elmo's potty time"
inside the case, they included a parent's guide to training. she took this guide, and banged on the bathroom door, screaming, "mama! mama!" she took off her pants, and diaper, and sat on her potty seat. she tells me to sit on the big potty, and hands me this guide, while saying, "here mama. you read now." she even opened it up, and turned the pages for me! i began to train her soon after, and realized she was just not ready to dive in full-time. we had many successful trips for the first few days. i did not scold her for accidents, and when she did go, i would praise her and say, "great job! you went pee pee on the potty!" she never pooped on it. she quickly lost interest, and it turned into nothing but screaming tantrums. the worst i had ever seen. my husband and i decided to just take a break from it, and try again in a couple of weeks. she ended up just giving up completely, and would only sit for 5-10 seconds. i tried everything such as reading books, grabbing her favorite toys, etc. nothing was working. she demanded to be trained again around 20 months by sitting on the potty and saying, "potty, sit." i have taken her into the bathroom with me every time since she was 6 months old and crawling, so this is nothing new for her. i am now 10 weeks pregnant, and this has got to be completed by the time her new sibling arrives. i refuse to have 2 in diapers unless, by some miraculous chance i end up with twins. we have since taken her potty of the picture, because she began to look at it as just a seat, not a potty. i bought a plastic seat that fits over our existing toilet, and began to tackle this once again. i set a kitchen timer for 20 minutes, and when it goes off, i yell, "potty time!" and take her right in there. every time she sits on it, it's a battle of wills. she screams, and kicks, and we have to literally make her sit there long enough to do something. i know she can do it, and i know she understands the concept of everything, she's a brilliant kid. it's just a matter of, "i don't want to, so i'm not going to!" we are on day 7 now, and since then, she has only peed on the potty 3 times, and pooped once. i'm not using pull-ups, i put her in cotton underwear. i don't believe in pull-ups, they are just pull-on diapers. she seems to feel very uncomfortable in dirty/wet underwear, and tries to take it off. i'm at my wits end here and don't know what else to do. i am not starting the rewards, because i don't believe in giving kids a reward for something they just have to do. you wouldn't give your kid an m&m for brushing their teeth... please help me! i joke that by the time i deliver, i will be bald, because i will have ripped all of my hair out. i have considered making a potty chart to tape on the bathroom wall, and instead of stickers, taking a red and green marker, and color dots for each time she goes. green for pee, red for poop. maybe if she can see her accomplishments, that will aid in the process...?