same here, but it was a close friend. i dont think she even realized that some of the things she said/did were ridiculous. when i announced being pregnant with my second child, she called me the next day saying she thinks she is pregnant (and she was NOT yet, but i guess trying) and made rude comments about my older son not being potty trained yet - he was only 2! your aunt is correct, people do act bizzare when they realize they are not the center of attention, but that doesn't make it right! i know it is hard, but kill her with kindness. ignore her inappropriate comments and what i did was ignore my friend all together. i figure if she was a true friend or really happy for me, like i was for her, then i wouldn't be dealing with it at all. for you its a relative, so if it does come to blows, i would try to explain that you are too happy with my own pregnancy to acknowledge the negative comments and although no one is perfect, including her, you are doing the best you can and are happy regardless of what she thinks or says. good luck and congrats to you!