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1 year ago
Something that really irritates me, and just confuses me about people, is how judge mental they are towards pregnant teenagers. Since I got pregnant, Everyone in school thinks I am a slut, or let's just be realistic, everyone that knows I am pregnant really looks down on me for it. So I would just like to not only get my opinions out there, but ask a few questions from the people who may have this opinion of me. Okay, so the most common thing I hear from pretty much any adult is, "You're way to young to be having sex". First of all, Most of them had sex in their teenage years too, and second, Why does it matter so much when you loose your virginity? This may just be my opinion but, I think it's my choice, right? It's my vagina, ultimately my decision if I am ready, so why should I be judged for it? Okay, another thing is, A lot of people, not only other teens at school, but adults, have asked me why I was stupid enough to get pregnant. Well, here's the thing, when you use condoms, and you're on birth control, and you still got pregnant. I think it was meant to be! I may just be a strong believer in fate, but it seems kinda out of my control. And here's my thoughts on the matter, my baby was supposed to be here, obviously that's why I got pregnant. And seriously, who the hell cares if I got knocked up at 14, big deal! It's my life, my body, my choice. There is absolutely nothing I can do about it now, And honestly I wouldn't wanna change anything. I love my baby already, and I am truly excited about being a mom. The whole thing about waiting untill you're older just really makes no sense to me, sex is a natural thing, and even as explained, it's something 2 people do when they love eachother. If I love someone now, what's the difference? It all goes back to the whole "kids aren't capable of love" thing right? That's ridiculous! I am pretty sure I have loved a few people in my life. Not only my parents, but pets, and friends, and of course my boyfriend. The heart may mature but it always works the same way. And you know what, it doesn't make a difference. Yeah my boyfriend and I might not be together forever, but guess what, a piece of paper that calls you married doesn't promise ever lasting love. And I'm sorry if I wasted your time by making you read this, but I just had to get a few things off my chest, I am tired of people judging me when they don't know me, or how I feel. And this isn't only about people on here but it's about people in general, school, friends,family. Everyone! So feel free to leave your opinions, and your thoughts on this whole topic, and answer a few questions if you want. I just need a few opinions, to know if I am the only one out there that feels this way about teen pregnancy and all that.

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1 year ago
The biggest reason I think that teenagers are too young to have sex is because they aren't ready to be parents. Like you said, people still get pregnant while using various birth control methods properly. because of that, and because of the risk of stds, kids shouldn't have sex. The most important thing I want to teach my kids is to wait to have sex until they're ready to raise a child. I would like for them to be at least 18 before they have sex. At least then I'll know they were trying to be responsible and make smart choices.i was raised by a teen mom. I know how hard it is for everyone involved. My mom sacrificed a lot to raise mea but unfortunately, she didn't do a very good job. She was too you and despite her best intentions, her best just wasn't good enough. It was incredibly hard for me growing up. I always knew I'd me a much better mother than she was, but knowing now just how hard it is to raise a child, I know there is no way I would have done this good a job raising my kids if I had been younger when I had them. and that is a huge reason for why I waited until I was 19 before I had sex.of course, it is your body and your choice. But, adults have more experience and sometimes, more wisdom than teenagers. That's why we my you're too young for all of this. I'm sorry you feel so judged, I know that can't be easy. 
1 year ago
Truthfully, I used to think just like you. when my twins were born I was only sixteen. I thought I could do it all, but in reality, I couldnt. My only saving grace was a family who was determined to help me suceed, and without them I would have failed (more then I have already).I didnt realize how wrong I was until I was older and wiser. Being a teen mom is one of the hardest things you can do in life and not everyone is cut out for it. In fact very few are cut out for it, in all honestly I was not. I was much too stubborn and immature to be a mother, and only now do I feel responsible enough to bring a child into this world.People will judge you, that comes with the territory of being a teenage mother. Hell, it comes with the territory of being a mother period. Just remember what society has for an example of teenage mothers, teen mom and teen mom 2 on mtv. A horrible example, but yet that unfortunatly is how the story goes alot of the time.I hope my daughter waits as long as she can before she start having sex, there are just too many risks with being young and sexually active. I want her to grow up and have fun and not have to grow up as fast as I did. Best of luck and I wish you the best. you have chosen Everest as you very first mountain to climb, I hope like heck that you make it. Simply put love ISNT enough.
1 year ago
I had my daughter Caitlyn at 21, and even though I was an adult, looking back I realize I wasn't a very good mother to her. I loved her, changed her diapers, and fed her, but being a parent is more than that. I made a lot of bad decisions, and I was too immature and selfish to raise a child at that time. Being a parent is hard, and it's something you should do when you're ready. And just as you said you can get pregnant on birth control, and condoms, which is why it's important to wait. The feeling of being judged is not a good one, and I know that from experience, but you just gotta ignore what people say and do whats best for you and your baby.  
1 year ago
Probably because most people dont think your parents and the government/ the tax payers should foot the bill. 
11 months ago
Summer's approaching and one of the favourite British pastimes, along with visiting the seaside, is to spend a day at a theme park. Alton Towers Like Drayton Manor and other theme parks, Alton Towers opening times vary throughout the year. And, attached with most deals are attractive discount voucher codes, increasing further the affordability of tickets sold. Peter's Church for a view of the area. The Cariba Creek Waterpark is open all year round too. Blackpool Council were not happy about phrenology and palmistry being marketed along the foreshore and forbade it fairly quickly. Nemesis - Dangle your feet as you shoot over the rivers of blood and rock subjecting your body to overwhelming g-forces. A highly rated hotel near to the Peak District National Park is The Derbyshire Hotel South Normanton. Stoke City Centre has been refurbished and has all the best mainstream and independent shopping outlets. Or you can view a film in the park whilst having a picnic. Pay $31 for an adult ticket and $23 for a child's admission to enter the park. Another worker died at Gulliver's in Milton Keynes after his head struck a tunnel that the park train enters. Swooping and diving at speeds up to 60 mph, Manta riders will see amazing underwater animal habitats, then fly through four inversions on 3,359 feet of track. In the same year, two cars on the Treetop Twister ride at Lightwater Valley Theme Park in North Yorkshire collided. Children are £10 per person for ages 4 to 11 years old. Ride designers are constantly trying to build higher, faster coasters and in the last 10 years the United Kingdom has had a surge in new, high tech roller coaster rides installed at some of our most famous theme parks like Alton Towers Theme Park, Thorpe Park and Drayton Manor. Therefore Blackpool was no longer a coastal village but a successful town. You sit in a circular "boat" and ride down the swirling rapids between two concrete walls. Located on the outskirts of the park's 42 acres is the Big Blue Hotel, one of the highest awarded hotels in North West England. Next, and one of my personal favourites, is the Nemesis at Alton Towers Resort. The old-world sightseeing opportunities are breathtaking, but your children would much rather enjoy a day at a European water park. Alton Towers is a huge theme park based in Staffordshire in England. Endless internet browsing and a considerable amount of time and effort is so often required to find the best money saving deals. In Cloud Cuckoo Land there is some fantastic live entertainment. 2006 saw two attraction accidents hit the headlines in close succession. Opened in 1994 it does not rival some of the modern coasters for speed, height or inversions but this compact coasters is rated in the top ten in the world by many critics. Thrill rides enjoyed by the near two million visitors annually include the inverted coaster Black Mamba and a mine train coaster called Colorado Adventure. The front part of the Runaway Mine Train, which had 46 people onboard, became separated from the rest of the ride and two riders were so badly injured that they had to be airlifted to hospital. Of course there are rides for all ages and tastes in Alton Towers theme park.

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