Such quick and easy answers without asking any more questions. Your question requires some clarification as well. Here's my view: 10 1/2 is a great age to teach about boundaries. I'm not talking about the talks we had about our bodies and not touching - I'm talking about who you are as a young lady and what that means. I'm talking about where a young lady and a young man may play or "hang out" together, in the presence of adults doing non-intimate things. My husband and I have always set the boundary that our daughter and son may not date until they are 16. My son, age 13, has recently discovered he has a crush on a girl. "Can I invite her over?" he asks me. "Of course" I answer "as a friend, with her parent's permission and a clear understanding of where you may be together and what you may do." If that's okay with him, it's okay with me. But that doesn't mean I turn my back and pretend all is okay. They are asking for guidance... let's give it to them (firmly with dignity and respect) and let them be empowered to do the right thing.