sorry for asking so many questions but im really worried and need help

Well obviously that's not the case. Did you try to talk to him today when you found him in the baby's room? It can be difficult for men to talk about their feelings. Maybe you should try to find him a support group or someone else that he can talk to. I know it's hard for both of you but he may just need some time to work out his own feelings before he can open up to you.

Thats horrible! Couldnt imagine what you guys are going thru. My husband is also in the army. So I know how stuburn those guys are, mines the same way! Maybe you guys can try again? you were what 22 weeks? And already knowing what the sex was im so sorry! Your def stronger than me I wouldnt have been able to take the stuff down. Sit him down and try to talk to him. After your little girl is asleep and turn off the tvs lol make him talk to you thats what i have to do. I hope everything works out!

I had a feeling he was in the military. My husband was in the Marine Corps and he's the same way sometimes. But, ironically, having PTSD and seeing a therapist for it has helped him to be more open with me. It's not really helping the PTSD though...

Anyway, I know it's a lot harder for guys who are still in to get help for emotional problems because they have to be so tough and macho all the time. Maybe you could find an online group for him where he wouldn't have to see anyone face to face, he wouldn't have to use his real name, but he could still "talk" about it with other men who have gone through the same thing. The anonymity might make the idea a little more appealing to him. And, I wouldn't give away all the baby stuff just yet. You may not want to use it in the future if you have another boy but your husband may not be ready to get rid of it all just yet.

I know how you feel and I know it's frustrating. A lot of men have that kind of attitude regarding their feelings anyway but when they're in an environment that forces them to be that way (like the military) it makes it so much worse. (And just so you know, if you do have a boy your husband will probably teach him to be the same way so you'll have your work cut out for you trying to reverse that training.)

Unfortunately, it sounds like this is something he's just going to have to deal with himself if he isn't going to open up to you. I know it makes it that much more frustrating and sad for both of you, but there's only so much you can do if he isn't willing. Just do what you can to make things easier on him and know that when he finally does need to talk to you or someone else about it he will.

yup mine is the same way... even for the simple things like did you take out the trash and the important things are so much worse.