ok here is an update.. Hopefully someone can help because now i am unsure. Ok Just yesterday i had to finally put my foot down, mind you the husband and i talked about it that morning and i told him i was telling her she needed to move out.She has put my daughter in harms way too many times, she for one carelessly always leaves her cig and lighters around for her to get ahold of, we told her endless times not to, she throws cig butts all around our house ( we are no longer smokers) and my daughter always gets to them. she has left the bleach out and my daughter got it all in her eyes, she agreed to babysit her while i went to work for a few hrs.. i came home and hr early and she was asleep on the couch while my daughter had locked herself out in the mudroom ( for god knows how long) and the very LAST straw i have with her,. My daughter brought down an OPEN razor blade from upstairs. its a miracle she didnt hurt herserlf. then when i go up stairsi find a bunch of sleeping pills..etc in a bag on the floor, easy reach for my kid. we have gone over this a thousand times with her thathereis a two yr old in the house and she neds to be repectful. On top of everything else that she has done, i honestly can nottake it anymore, her dad doesnt want to have the guilt of kicking her out because he was absent in her life for so long.But i honestly do not want to wait around for the next mistake she makes that will hurt my daughter. she has made it so hard for us to welcome her in the home. Well we got into a heated argument yesterday, i was going to give her til the nd of the month..But she got an attitude and we raised voices, so i told her she needed to be out by this wkend. And what i an afraid of more than anythng, is that this is going to effect my marraige? is he going to hate me later on for kicking her out, i know i will never hear the end of it with his family. Its my house and i felt that i needed to put my foot down cause he honestly never does, and i am the one to deal with it all day long.. Please give me advice!