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unprotected sex for a year and no pregnancy?

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3 years ago
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now. We have been having unprotected sex the whole time. For the first few months we were together, he pulled out. But after the first few months he stopped pulling out. We have been having sex almost daily for a whole year. (There would be times when we would go without for a couple of days or a week). But I have not gotten pregnant yet. I keep track of my period, and according to the normal menstrual cycle, we have had sex several times when I should have been ovulating. But no pregancy. We want to have a baby together some time soon. It's not like we are trying, where I calculate my ovulation time, and we have to have sex that day. It is just kind of like if it happens it happens. But I am worried that since I haven't gotten pregnant yet that maybe I can't. I have had an std in the past, about 5 yrs ago. After having syptoms, I was diagnosed and treated with gonorrhea when I was 19. It went away with antibiotics. But I had been having sex since 17 without getting tested, so I don't really know how long I had the std. But I read that it could cause infertility if left untreated for a period of time. I am worried that my stupid mistakes in the past may have made me infertile? Any answers or comforting words?

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3 years ago
We tried for 2 years with no luck.  Finally, we planned a cruise and we are due the day after we are suppose to board the ship.  I guess we just needed to stop trying so hard.  I always thought it was stupid how people would say to stop stressing about it but it worked for us...accidentally.  Good luck with whatever works for you.
3 years ago
My brother and sister in law tried for 6 years after there 1st baby. 7 1/2 years later they have a 1 year old and now a baby on the way! I personally have been trying for a year still no luck. My husband and I now are done trying and just going to keep on with our lives. We arent using protection but we are having fun. Whether or not it happen right now we are leaving it up to the big guy up stairs. It breaks my heart to not have a baby, but its not worth my health to stress over the fact I dont have one. Sex is now fun and not a chore for my hubby and I! Hopefully results change. Good luck with you and your future children. MY advice enjoy each others company. Let love making be fun.
3 years ago
My brother and sister in law tried for 6 years after there 1st baby. 7 1/2 years later they have a 1 year old and now a baby on the way! I personally have been trying for a year still no luck. My husband and I now are done trying and just going to keep on with our lives. We arent using protection but we are having fun. Whether or not it happen right now we are leaving it up to the big guy up stairs. It breaks my heart to not have a baby, but its not worth my health to stress over the fact I dont have one. Sex is now fun and not a chore for my hubby and I! Hopefully results change. Good luck with you and your future children. MY advice enjoy each others company. Let love making be fun.
3 years ago
The only ways to truly know when you're ovulating are to get ultrasounds, have bloodwork drawn or to chart your basal body temperature (you can do this free on many websites - I use fertilityfriend.com). Ovulation predictor kits only tell you when your body is gearing up to ovulate. Many women can gear up to ovulate and never actually do; this is a common thing with women with PCOS. If you're worried, go see your obgyn and have some tests run. There are several simple tests that can your doctor can run to rule things out.
2 years ago
well i think you should skip a month or 2 then when his gun is ready to shoot have sex might help

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