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We just discovered we're pregnant w/ our second, how to tell family?

6 answers
2 years ago
I am the mother of an 18month old sweetheart named Vincent. My husband and I are in our early 20's, and no one thought we should have another so early. It was a conscious decision, and we're frankly afraid of the feedback if we let our family know that we ignored their advice, etc. Hands down, however, we are elated to be having another, our first is an angel and giving him a playmate, and getting the diaper days over in a six year stint is a beautiful thing to us. I'm definitely pregnant, too...Everything smells weird, many things taste weird, breasts hurt, super hungry, craving sweet food to a horrid point, hormone fluctuation like insane-o and the whole shabam. We also wanna know WHEN to tell them, I can't be more than four weeks, I was going to wait until about the 12 week, by then I'll have an ultrasound, etc. thanks!

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2 years ago
I'd wait until the moment felt right. Who cares what others think, it is your life and you are living it how you want to. And Vincent will love you for having another one so early on (after he gets over the jealous phase). I still haven't told every one and I'm in my 27th week. My moment still hasn't come. And good luck. They should put all feelings aside when they see the new one for the first time.
2 years ago
Im only 23 and i want my children to be close in age also. currently i have a 14 month old and pregnant with our second. even though we have hit a string of bad luck lately we have decided to go ahead and annouce our new bundle of joy the way we had planned to do it from the day we decided to conceive. i had a shirt made for my son that says "ayden is a big brother in the making". the next time my family gets together, he'll wear it. with every question they ask the more it will come to them that the brother or sister is in my oven. in the end they'll be happy to have someone to spoil.i work at a bakery, so with my first son i made a 12 inch cookie cake with the words "guess what?", a blue rattle and a pink diaper on it. it took them a minue to get it, but in the end they were jumping for joy.
2 years ago
is the family supporting you? are they your own personal daycare? Can you not financially meet the needs of your current family and therefore have no idea how to do it with one more?If you answered no to these questions it really is none of their business! Tell them you are expecting again and thrilled about it and leave it at that. don't let anyone get you down. It isn't them raising the kids so they have no say.Good luck
2 years ago
Thank you for your answers! to cresteds: no,no and no. My mom watches her grandson when it is convinient for her on a weekend when my husband and I wanna go catch a movie, we are great parents and my family is very morally supportive, But as the oldest one in my generation, I catch a lot of flack when I do something wrong it feels. They ALL want me to go back to college and can't see that I'm working on that right now, so I think I am going to wait until the time is right, after this first little thing, cause first trimester anything could happen.I love them all and I just don't want them disappointed =D
1 year ago
I think im about 6 weeks, second pregnancy. Hope this one i can carry full term. I feel the same bc w my first some of the family werent very supportive at all, like my grandparents, the ones that matter....So this time im worried when i should tell them or if i should bc it hurt my feelings :\ guess il wait until im into my 2nd trimester. Good luck! :)
1 year ago
I think im about 6 weeks, second pregnancy. Hope this one i can carry full term. I feel the same bc w my first some of the family werent very supportive at all, like my grandparents, the ones that matter....So this time im worried when i should tell them or if i should bc it hurt my feelings :\ guess il wait until im into my 2nd trimester. Good luck! :)

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