Coldertwins - I'm in the same boat and have no solution to offer but want you to know you're not alone. I have 22 month old twin girls. We ask Emma if she's ready to get in her bed and as long as she doesn't say 'no', it means she's ready. We turn on the rain noise, star lights and down she goes. She's asleep before her head hits the bed. On the other hand, our Princess, Alex, pretends to be sleep until her sister goes to bed then she's ready to play as if then is her time to be alone with us. Mind you, we have all the lights down, Sprout Bedtime show on TV, she's in her PJ's, brushed her teeth, had 2-3 stories read to her at this point. As soon as sissy is gone, she hops up, finds the noisiest toy she can and goes to town. We have to constantly move/hide toys, etc, fight her to lay down, hold her, rock her, etc. We can't let her 'cry it out' since her sister is soundly sleeping. We've tried moving Emma to another bed to sleep while we let Alex cry it out. She will wail for up to 45 minutes, gets so upset she throws up in her bed. Its awful! We've resorted to putting her in our bed with her TV show until she falls asleep. Then we move her to her own bed. My husband has no problem with this but for me - I'm shorter - she wakes up whenever I try to lay her down in her own bed. If we're able to move her successfully to her own bed, she'll wake up at 4am screaming and if we're not quick enough, she'll wake up Emma too. It's been rough. This has been going on since she had tubes put in her ears in August. The grandparents are staying with them for a few days while we're away - fingers crossed she goes down easy for them and keeps it up when we get back. I've learned she only does this when I'm home. She's a dream for sitters and family, just wants to spend more time with mommy - very clingy these days. We'll see what happens. Maybe some of the things I tried will be successful for you. Good luck. Please report when you find a solution!