Parents who abandon their marriage and children should be ashamed of themselves. What ever happened to "for better or worse?" These aren't just words, they are COMMITMENTS.My mother, who is now 54, was in this exact position before I was born. My father was distant and verbally abusive. When she became pregnant, she was overjoyed, but my father never pulled his weight. At three months old, she filed for divorce, after she found his mistress holding me at a party!As a child, I respected my mother's choice to divorce my father and although he kept up with his visitation, our time together paled in comparison to the time with my mother. She was my rock, my stability, my compassion, my love. I always knew, growing up, that she was the "better parent" because she fought to keep me healthy and safe. She COMMITED to raising me.Even as I type this, my eyes are welling with tears for you and what you are going through. But from the perspective of a child who has been through a timultuous parental relationship.... ask your partner to attend counseling. If he refuses, he is breaking his COMMITMENT to you and your children. Do not subject yourself, or your children, to a lifetime of seeing two parents who do not love and honor each other. It will only teach them the wrong characteristics to look for in their own relationships.Good luck to you and your family. Women are strong and I pray that God gives you the guidance you need.