When I started looking at this forum almost two years ago, it was friendly and full of advice on how to help people with their newborns or through their pregnancies. Slowly, I've seen this site decline. I don't answer any questions on here, but I have asked quite a lot of questions and the responses went from friendly to harsh. I don't understand. Mothers, almost as a whole, have a saying that goes like this, "If you ain't got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything." I'm sure that a lot of you have told your kids that. This whole, "Well, if you haven't been through it, don't say anything" and, "You're HOW OLD? How dare you go ahead and make your own decisions to have sex and end up pregnant?!" is disgusting and unwarranted. Honestly, think about this, sometimes the best advice doesn't come from people who have gone through something similar. Sheesh... Or how about this: Sometimes, from "poor" choices, come the most beautiful gifts ever to be had? I see A LOT of judging now on this forum and that's not why Parenting.com has established this Q&A forum and passing judgement is not why YOU originally joined this site. You joined to give and get advice, especially when you're running ragged and every nerve in your body has been pushed to the point of breaking and you have no one else to ask anything from. Respect everyone, guys. They've come here to ask for opinions on what to do in their time of need (I don't remember anyone on here having a Doctor's degree) and if you don't lovingly give it, they might go somewhere and end up doing something they will regret. Every teenager on this site, congratulations on being pregnant. I had a miscarriage in May 2011, but I understand the joy of feeling a baby inside of you. I know that you're happy and let me tell you: You are blessed. I hope that, even if you have no idea what's going to happen after the birth, that your days and footsteps, your relationships and both you and your child's futures are blessed beyond belief. To everyone else on this site: You, too, are blessed. I pray that your futures are also blessed beyond belief. To everyone on this site, including myself: I hope, when someone comes on here and asks for help, that misguiding and judgemental tongues will be held at a stand-still and only love will shine. Think about what you post before you press 'submit' because words have the power of life and death, even if you don't believe that they do and written words aren't easy to erase, especially if they're published on the Internet.