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what should i do?

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what should i do?

i have 2 month cute baby girl, her name is iqra, she is my first child and i love her i feel im the lucky women in this world to have girl like her. but now im really worried cuz my "Maternity leave" will be over soon and i have to leave her at daycare which is rite behind my job but i feel im bad mom my husband told me im doing this just for her gud life but i feel guilty i don't know wat should i do?
asked by Misspaki 2 years 5 weeks ago
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by azriona submitted 2 years 5 weeks

You're not a bad mom for going back to work.  You're in good company doing so, actually - so please don't feel as though you are.  Every mom who goes back to work feels like this - plenty of the moms in my mommy group did when they had to go back.  (And while most of them settled in just fine, a few did stop working shortly after their return.) 

 

If, after returning to work, you still can't stand it, it'd be worth revisiting your finances to see if you can't swing another few months/year at home with Iqra, or even go down to a part-time situation.  But for now, go back - you never know.  Having that bit of a break to talk to grown-ups might be just what you need.

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by Nelliebugz submitted 2 years 5 weeks

I felt the same way when I went back to work.  It's hard for the first few weeks, but I just think about how much the babies learn at day care being around all the other babies.  He started day care at 8 weeks old, and now he's almost a year.  As long as you feel good about the day care center and you trust them then I wouldn't worry about it.  They are great.  I found it hardest to find one that I could afford, and that I felt would educate my child and work with him.  Now I love the day care and Ayden goes every day regardless if I am working or not.  I do enjoy my Mommy days and like being able to run errands and do house work and not have to worry about him.  But at the end of his day I am happy to have him home.  

Just relax and know that every working mom goes through these feelings.  

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by mom of camseth submitted 2 years 5 weeks

I felt just as guilty, and I left my daughter with my mother in law!!   Going back to work is something Mom's must do, or suffer the necessary sacrifices.

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by mom of camseth submitted 2 years 5 weeks

I felt just as guilty, and I left my daughter with my mother in law!!   Going back to work is something Mom's must do, or suffer the necessary sacrifices.

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by mom of camseth submitted 2 years 5 weeks

I felt just as guilty, and I left my daughter with my mother in law!!   Going back to work is something Mom's must do, or suffer the necessary sacrifices.

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by mom of camseth submitted 2 years 5 weeks

I felt just as guilty, and I left my daughter with my mother in law!!   Going back to work is something Mom's must do, or suffer the necessary sacrifices.

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by AAWM submitted 2 years 4 weeks

Can you visit your child on breaks? Maybe having a picture of your child nearby will help. It gets easier with time.

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