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what should i do ?

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1 year ago
i want my babydaddy in my life and as well as our son, but if hes gonna be dating another girl , i dont want nothing to do with him, an i dot want him to have nothing to do with our son. i dont want my son to have a step mom, or another mom. i will be his only mom... what should i do .? i didnt even put him on the birth cerificate, so theres really nothing he can do. and i know he wont take me to court...

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1 year ago
Your son has the right to know his father. I grew up without knowing my father or his family. In my opinion, unless a person is posing some sort of danger, your feelings toward them do not matter and should not be taken into consideration in this kind of decision. It isn't fair for you to keep your son from knowing his father just because this man is dating someone else.
1 year ago
you need to think about your son above your own feelings. if your ex is a good influence then he needs to be apart of your son's life. alot of research has proven that children need both a positive female and male presence(commonly a mother and a father). if he isn't now give him the chance to become one.i know it may hurt to see him being happy with someone else, but at one time you cared enough about him to make a baby, so you must have wanted him to be happy. find that feeling again so you can find your happyness.one last thought, please dont make this about who "legally" has more rights. any statement that starts with "well, legally.." is no longer about what's in the best interest of your son.you love your son and you want what's best for him, but maybe your ex does too. start there on common ground and work forward.
1 year ago
in simple words: grow-up a little more because you are in a grown-up situation.you need to think about your son above your own feelings. if your ex is a good influence then he needs to be apart of your son's life. alot of research has proven that children need both a positive female and male presence(commonly a mother and a father). if he isn't now give him the chance to become one.i know it may hurt to see him being happy with someone else, but at one time you cared enough about him to make a baby, so you must have wanted him to be happy. find that feeling again so you can find your happyness.one last thought, please dont make this about who "legally" has more rights. any statement that starts with "well, legally.." is no longer about what's in the best interest of your son.you love your son and you want what's best for him, but maybe your ex does too. start there on common ground and work forward.

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