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When is the best time to tell the family members you don't that u r pg

7 answers
3 years ago
My in-laws treat my two kids horribly and they always brag about how great their other grandchild is. Do I have to tell his family that I am pg if they never talk to me and never come to visit?

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3 years ago
NO !! If there not nice to u enough to call u once in a while to ask how you and your family are, then i dnt think they deserve u bothering your self eather !! i always thought grandparents would always love all there grandkids equal but i have noticed its not true .. Pluss if they treat your other kids horribly then thet dont deserve to knw...!!enjoy your pregnancy !! Im sure to u and to all your family its a great happyness let the people who are always there for u take a part on this speacial moment not the horrible ones,,,by the way CONGRANTS !!
3 years ago
NO !! If there not nice to u enough to call u once in a while to ask how you and your family are, then i dnt think they deserve u bothering your self eather !! i always thought grandparents would always love all there grandkids equal but i have noticed its not true .. Pluss if they treat your other kids horribly then thet dont deserve to knw...!!enjoy your pregnancy !! Im sure to u and to all your family its a great happyness let the people who are always there for u take a part on this speacial moment not the horrible ones,,,by the way CONGRANTS !!
3 years ago
I agree with previous post. Take care of you and that baby and let your partner tell his horrible mother you are expecting. 
3 years ago
IF they ever call, casually slip it into the conversation, but since they don't ever call, dont tell them. just because you're pregnant, doesn't mean you have to tell anyone.
3 years ago
Thank you everyone. Your posts are really helpfull.
3 years ago
In this situation your husband needs to take his parents aside and explain that all their grandchildren deserve to be loved equally and to have the opportunity to develop a relationship with their grandparents. The grandparents also need to be told that though they may not be able to help having favorites among their grandchildren, for everybody's sake they need to avoid making it so obvious. Your husband should also tell his parents that their insensitive behavior is upsetting their daughter-in-law and putting her in a very awkward situation.If your husband refuses to stand up for you on this important issue, you will have to ask yourself if he really deserves you and your children in his life and act accordingly, starting with couples counseling.As for keeping your pregnancy a secret from your in-laws -- what would be the point of that? They are bound to find out about it sooner or later, and they could hardly avoid taking personally the fact that you kept the news from them, even if to you they might not seem to deserve being informed. Remember also that your baby deserves to have the chance to bond with his grandparents.(I must admit that I'm puzzled about why your husband has not already told his parents about you being pregnant. Is he not on speaking terms with them, or is it so soon after you discovered you were pregnant that even your husband doesn't yet know?)Finally, after your husband has had a word with his parents, it will probably be helpful if you could make a friendly gesture towards them, such as baking them a cake, to demonstrate to them that you yourself are making an effort to keep your relations sweet.Don't allow yourself to be discouraged if it takes a while for things between you to improve noticeably. In your dealings with them, try always to keep calm and think things through as clearly as you can before you do or say something that you might later wish you hadn't. Let your husband be in no doubt that you expect him to back you up when necessary.If you succeed in turning things around, the result will have been worth your patience and effort. If your relationship with your in-laws still does not improve, at least you will know in your own mind that you gave it your best shot.
3 years ago
you can't hide a pregnancy from your in-laws and even if you could it wouldn't be beneficial to your kids ...all children love their grandparents even if said grandparents play favorites...i also agree that your husband should step up and confront his parents about their behavior and if they don't change then its their loss (i know total cliche but it's true) they are the ones who will miss out on quality time with your kids not the other way around...but regardless they should be told

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