In this situation your husband needs to take his parents aside and explain that all their grandchildren deserve to be loved equally and to have the opportunity to develop a relationship with their grandparents. The grandparents also need to be told that though they may not be able to help having favorites among their grandchildren, for everybody's sake they need to avoid making it so obvious. Your husband should also tell his parents that their insensitive behavior is upsetting their daughter-in-law and putting her in a very awkward situation.If your husband refuses to stand up for you on this important issue, you will have to ask yourself if he really deserves you and your children in his life and act accordingly, starting with couples counseling.As for keeping your pregnancy a secret from your in-laws -- what would be the point of that? They are bound to find out about it sooner or later, and they could hardly avoid taking personally the fact that you kept the news from them, even if to you they might not seem to deserve being informed. Remember also that your baby deserves to have the chance to bond with his grandparents.(I must admit that I'm puzzled about why your husband has not already told his parents about you being pregnant. Is he not on speaking terms with them, or is it so soon after you discovered you were pregnant that even your husband doesn't yet know?)Finally, after your husband has had a word with his parents, it will probably be helpful if you could make a friendly gesture towards them, such as baking them a cake, to demonstrate to them that you yourself are making an effort to keep your relations sweet.Don't allow yourself to be discouraged if it takes a while for things between you to improve noticeably. In your dealings with them, try always to keep calm and think things through as clearly as you can before you do or say something that you might later wish you hadn't. Let your husband be in no doubt that you expect him to back you up when necessary.If you succeed in turning things around, the result will have been worth your patience and effort. If your relationship with your in-laws still does not improve, at least you will know in your own mind that you gave it your best shot.