my daughter, paisley will be 3 in august, and lately she has become quite a handful, to say the least. her baby sister is 5 months old, and i understand that she is having some issues with jealousy. however, i have done everything i know to do in order to help her overcome it. i'm a stay at home mother, so i spend as much one on one time with her as possible. even if i'm busy with housework, i enlist her help so she doesn't feel left out. for the past few months, she has become out of control, and i don't know what else to do. i have zero tolerance for whining, which seems to be her favorite past time. i have scoured the internet looking for clues on how to solve her behavior problems, but nothing seems to be working. i often joke to my husband that jo frost, the super nanny needs to come pay her a visit. she begins to whine the minute that i greet her with, "good morning, paisley, what would you like for breakfast today?" i try to give her options when it's appropriate, such as yogurt or cereal for breakfast, pink or purple tutu, green or blue cup, etc. she whines about EVERYTHING. she throws epic, oscar worthy fits over almost EVERYTHING. when the answer is "no, not right now.," i am always met with a flailing, screaming brat. i'm ready to start pulling out my hair, one strand at a time. it seems that we are having more bad days than good at this point. she constantly pesters our 2 dogs, laughing while she pulls ears and tails, pokes their eyes, pries their mouths open so she can yank on their tongues. (all the while, my loving dogs just lye there and take it) i quickly reprimand her, and calmly explain that her behavior is not only inappropriate, but that it hurts, and send her straight to time out. i tell her to sit there and think about what she has done, and when she is ready to behave herself, she may come out. 2-3 minutes later, i let her out, and have a talk with her about what she has done wrong, and make her understand why it was wrong. within minutes, she is right back to the said behavior, or something else she knows she's not supposed to do. she has tons of toys, and books to play with, but seems to want only the things that are forbidden. for a while, i thought she had outgrown that stage, but ever since my second daughter was born, it has been an absolute nightmare with paisley. i know that this is all somewhat normal for her age, and i'm told to prepare myself for the 3's, because it will only increase tenfold then. at this point, i honestly don't see how it could possibly get any worse than it is. help me!