It is all in God's timing. Our first child was concieved from fooling around, and our second took 2 1/2 years of active trying to be concieved. I do believe that only the Lord knows when we are ready.That being said, an herb called Honeybush seemed to coordinate with my second pregnancy. It is usually made as a tea and is a natural expectorant. I was told it would thicken the mucus, making it easier for the sperm to swim to the egg. I can actually feel when I ovulate, so I drank it all day on the day I ovulated, and then I got pregnant. While I cannot say for certain it helped, it does coordinate. Teavana has a delicious version called Honeybush Vanilla. They have a website www.teavana.com, though I believe there are a number of stores, too.I wish you the best of luck. It will be hard, but it sounds like you have already weighed the pros and cons of the situation. I did it alone for 3 months while my husband (then fiance') finished college. Family support is the key, and it sounds like you have it. God Bless.