5 Big-Kid Discipline Dilemmas - Solved!
Q: When I ask my 10-year-old to set the table, she says she can't because she has "soooo much homework." Yet she's never too snowed under to watch iCarly. What do I do?
A: The moment she balks, give your daughter a moderate, logical consequence for not setting the table, advises Larissa Niec, Ph.D., director of the Parent-Child Interaction Therapy Clinic at Central Michigan University. For example, when dinner is over, she won't get to watch TV; instead, she'll have to do homework. "If the excuse doesn't work, children will typically stop using it," says Niec.
Then, to avoid this situation in the future, notify your daughter, in advance, that it's now her job to set the table. You might say, "You're older now, so these are the expectations: You're going to help out your family by doing this every night."
Afterward, be sure to praise her when she follows through, says Niec. "Sometimes, paying attention to the positive behavior is all it takes."