Behavior

A Lesson in Greeting

Tips on teaching kids the art of a warm greeting

By Esther Chapman, Parenting
 
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At 7 and 8 years old, my sons have yet to learn when to say "please" and "thank you," or how to make good eye contact with others. For years, I have tried to instill these basic manners through discussion, example, and gentle reminders. What can I do to help them exhibit these important social graces? - Parenting.com

If your child's greeting skills consist of hiding behind your legs or mumbling "Hi" while staring at the ground, don't despair. Cooperative, eager-to-please 5- and 6-year-olds are at the perfect stage to learn the art of a warm greeting. Here's how to transform those hellos:

Play the big-kid card
Discuss with your child how meeting someone in a friendly and polite manner shows respect for the other person and makes your child appear more grown-up.

Break it down
Make a list together of what constitutes a polite hello, including eye contact, a smile, a clear greeting ("It's nice to meet you"), an extended hand, and in many cases, an introduction ("My name is Michael").

Get some practice
Role-playing with stuffed animals or puppets gives kids an opportunity to practice their new skills without feeling self-conscious. The next step is family members. Ask Dad or Grandma to pretend to "meet" your child each time he or she enters the door.

Make a game of it
Pretend to greet your child, and then have him judge whether your greeting sounded nice -- or not. For example, try saying the right words, but with a pouty expression or a frown on your face, so your child can see how the greeting quickly changes tone.

Prepare for an event
Review the rules before a family gathering or social situation, and look at photos of people your child might see there.

 

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