Should you register for the baby items you'd like to have? In a word, yes. If it seems weird to ask for specific gifts - get over it. Once you've sat through a shower where the mom-to-be opens three monitors, two wipe warmers, a hideous bedding set, and 87 hand-wash-only sweaters, you'll get it. Gift givers come out of nowhere when a baby arrives. Aside from shower guests, your coworkers (and your husband's), neighbors, far-flung cousins, and your mom's friends will all be shopping for your baby. Registering eliminates (or at least greatly reduces) duplicate and not-your-style gifts, and the running around they set off. Here are our tips on how to register the right way.

Decide where to register
A store with a big selection that also allows shoppers to buy from your registry online is ideal. Out-of-state relatives (as well as busy people everywhere) will appreciate being able to order your gift without having to go anywhere, yet those who like to browse and touch can. Questions to ask:

• Will the store deliver and assemble big items, like a crib? If so, is there a charge
• Can you update your registry online?
• What is the return policy?

As much as stores push gift receipts on shoppers, often your presents won't come with one. Make sure that you'll be offered store credit for returns without a receipt. Also, you probably won't be buzzing around town with your newborn as soon as you think, so the longer you have to return, the better. Look for a 30-day window at least.

Overall, these are good registries to consider:Babies R Us, Baby Depot, Target, Wal-Mart.

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