Postpartum

Will You Be a Good Mother?

By Paula Spencer, Parenting
 
See Also
The top 50 questions we get from expecting moms: 'Is it safe to go tanning during pregnancy?' 'Can I eat hot dogs?' Here are the answers. - Parenting.com
Discover your personal mothering style and build on your strengths so that both you and your baby can be happy - Parenting.com
From appreciating the benefits of venting to learning to slow down and enjoy your baby - Parenting.com
I was seven months pregnant, taking my evening stroll, when I spied the tiny, squirming ball of fur, its eyes still fused shut. How a baby mole got to the middle of my street I'll never know. I picked it up, wrapped it in a tissue, and carried it home.

Deep inside, a strange, reassuring glow began to emerge. I felt...nurturing. Maybe this meant I'd be a good mother after all. (Never mind that I returned the helpless creature to a hole in the yard that my husband pointed out belonged to a snake, who had surely devoured my "baby" for breakfast.) I'd been consumed by worries about how well I'd manage maternity. Here I was, soon to give birth, and I'd never so much as held an infant. I was a workaholic with a dry-clean-only wardrobe, the sort of person whom friends would vote Least Likely to Wear a Snugli.

Will I make a good mom? The question crosses many a woman's mind at some point in her life. Goodness knows, there are enough reasons for trepidation. Loss of control. Fear of sacrificing your own ambitions for your child. Fear of turning into your mother. Worries about how your relationship will change. Fear of realizing, too late, that you just aren't the type to be called "Mama."

It's easy for your imagination to run amok. You can't peek into a crystal ball to see whether you're cut out for the job. Your life, however, is rife with clues. Here, how to read them --whether you've just given birth or are waiting for your first baby.


page 1 of 6
NEXT >


PRINT
Quick Poll

What's the most you've ever spent on a single kid's holiday gift?

Less than $100
$100 to $200
More than $200
I'm trying to forget


ADVERTISEMENT
Popular on Parenting.com
Popular on Parenting.com
 
Photo Galleries

10 Superpowers of Pregnant Women

Pregnant? How those crazy body changes turn you into Wonder Woman (plus one)

Pregnancy Super Powers
promotion
 

Blog: The Daily Fave

Shawn: "Sure, it helps to know what a mucus plug is, but mostly guys need books that offers simple, streamlined, practical info that doesn't get bogged down with a lot of 'medical diagrams' or 'compound sentences.' Well have I got the book for you, Pops." Updated frequently.

Blog: The Parenting Post

Mighty Maggie: "I have been in charge of the family finances for about a year now and I STILL DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM DOING." Updated Daily!

The Best Toys of 2009

We're giving away over $900 worth of toys! Enter BOTH giveaways once a day until December 14
Birthday Parties

31 Amazing Birthday Cake Designs

Sweet! The easiest, cutest cakes for boys and girls