Behavior

When Your Toddler's a Designated Hitter

By Anita Sethi, Babytalk
 
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How to help your child deal with his anger and frustration in a productive manner - Parenting.com
What to do about toddler hitting and how to turn it into a teaching moment. - Parenting.com
There is little in the social world of Mommy & Me that is worse than being the mother of a hitter. There's not much you can do but offer an apology and acknowledge your child is at fault. It may help relieve your self-blame to know that it's not so unusual for toddlers to swing their tiny fists.

Why he hits Babies this age usually strike out when they are frustrated or don't have the words to express what they want or need. If he's socking another child because he wants a toy she has, he may need you to act on his behalf. But you can't let your toddler think that any of these outbursts, including pushing, biting, and hair grabbing, are acceptable behaviors.

What you can do When your child has a meltdown, quickly and quietly remove him from the situation. If you get agitated, that may actually make him do it more often. Make your response simple and brief. Say: "That is not okay. Don't hit." If you spank a child who hits, your words contradict your actions. Offering your child positive reinforcement will also go a long way toward putting a stop to his baby beatdowns. If you see him playing nicely and sharing, encourage him to continue and show him that you are happy and proud of his actions.



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