Cooper Lawrence, relationship expert and author of the dating guide Been There, Done That, Kept the Jewelry shares some tips that will help even the busiest mom find time for romance.

Instead of watching TV once the kids are asleep, light some scented candles and dim the lights. Get a great-smelling oil and take turns massaging each other, paying close attention to feet and shoulders, which are usually the most tense. A fun one: The new "Play With Me" massage oil comes with body-part word dice! ($15; victoriassecret.com )

Find a photo of the two of you together pre-kids  -- one where you both look especially happy and relaxed  -- and slip it into his coat pocket. Call after he's left for the day and tell him to look there.

Let the text messages rip. The more provocative, the better.

Swipe some valentines before your preschooler doles 'em out and write a few to your husband. Hide them in surprising spots, like his underwear drawer, shoes, and car, for him to discover through the day.

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