It only takes a minute
But you're too tired to have a romantic life or even a sense of humor, right? Well, snap out it. You're going to be tired for the next 20 years, so you may as well make the best of things. Adding a little romance to your relationship won't make you any more tired, it doesn't require much energy (in fact, it usually gives you energy), it doesn't take a lot of time, and it pays off in spades.
"Think back to the early years and the little things you did to be romantic," says Weiner Davis. "Maybe he would call from work and tell you he wants you, maybe you would send him a slightly suggestive e-mail." You could also trade back rubs once a week or even single body-part rubs. Touching is romantic even if it ends there, and every parent can use a massage.
My friend, a mom of three in northern New Jersey, talks to her husband on the phone several times each day. And every time they say goodbye they make a little fake kissing noise. "It started as a total goof," she says, "but it's now become this kind of sweet private joke between us."
